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He was buried today

Posted : 6/17/2006 10:58:05 PM

My friend who died last week in an accident was buried this morning. Some may remember my other post. As you know he is the 4th one in 4 months.

I didnt have the guts to go to the burial.

I went last night to the funeral home to see him, which is why I could not bear to see him shoved into a dark hole, all alone. He lookes beautiful, really gorgeous. I'd never cried so much, he looked just like he did when he was alive. I swear I could almost see his chest move up and down like he was breathing, that how good he looked. I panicked, and felt like yelling to everyone 'hes breathing!'

My shallow quick breaths made me imagine him breathing, he looked like he would jump up any minute and yell "gotcha!"

I was pretty put together until an old man started singing and thats when I lost it. His death has really affected me, I think he is the toughest one so far.

I hope I can soon learn to live with this, but it will be hard, I mean I look at the t-shirt with his photo and I can remember every little detail about him...

huskymom

Posted : 6/17/2006 11:06:23 PM

Once again I am so sorry for your loss. Its so hard to lose someone, especially when that someone is so young.

It is always hard. My friend was a DJ so every song I know practically reminds me of him. Even new songs will make me think, hmm you know Sean would have played this song. My breaking point at the viewing was when his son finally made it up to the casket. Poor little guy kept trying to make it up there, and each time he would make it a pew farther, sit down and stare and get up and go back to the back. Sean got to plan his own funeral though. It was very short and to the point. Lots of pictures and a really great song. We were also told not to wear black. It was the most colourful funeral I have ever been to.

willowchow

Posted : 6/17/2006 11:15:11 PM

I'm really sorry for your loss.

A few years ago, I lost a very good friend of mine in a horrific nightclub fire that we had here. It was a very difficult wake, a double, two caskets, he and his wifes and a whole collage at the entrance with pictures of them and of their wedding. It's something I'll never forget.

You'll be OK though, it takes time.

tacran

Posted : 6/18/2006 1:17:12 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about the breathing illusion when watching the body. The more I look, the more certain I am that the chest is rising and falling.

Funerals and wakes for friends, especially young ones, are very hard. It makes one think about mortality, things you wished you'd done before the person left, etc. The first funeral I ever went to was when I was about 16, for a classmate who was killed in an auto accident. It was awful - I kept thinking, "but we just had gym class together." I'll never forget the huge crowd there and the sight of his devastated parents.

Again, I'm sorry you're dealing with so many sad losses. Take care.

ron2

Posted : 6/18/2006 7:24:14 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss. When they had the viewing for my first wife, the ac vent seemed to be blowing on the casket, making her dress move. It was surreal, to say the least, and too much for me to bear.

Hugs to you and you will be okay. Everyone grieves in their own way. Try to remember the funny stuff he did.