A little morning rant about my parents

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    A little morning rant about my parents

    Here's a little morning rant about my parents, because, well, just because I feel like it this morning.
    So, I want to go see Markie tomorrow in Harrisburg. Yes, Harrisburg is about 2 1/2 hours away (although maybe not so much at the time I will be travelling) and yes, it will require me to take the turnpike (for the record, I have never driven on the turnpike, and tend to avoid highways in general). Now, my parents have known of my plans to go for a good amount of time now, oh, i'd say two weeks. I'd say that was plenty of time to voice an objection. But no, they waited until yesterday. And they didn't even come to me directly about it. Instead, they went through my sister. Apparently they never pay attention to where I am going, because they seem to hold the belief that I have actually never driven on a real highway or something. That just proves how little attention they pay to what I do and where I go, not that I mind it. However, I have driven on highways, but again, I just avoid it when not necessary. I was on 95 just last week when taking Max to the daycare that he will be going to tomorrow. I was on it when I went to Rutgers to see my friends last year. I had to go on a highway to get to Annie's house too,  but I think they didn't like either. Just because I avoid something, does not mean I am incapable of doing it, or that I will be able to avoid it for my whole life. If the motivation is strong enough, it will be done, and it will be impossible to avoid forever. But, since my dad so objected, I tried to guilt him in to taking me by suggesting that if he did not trust that I could do it, then he should take me. That didn't work. I think now the effort to prevent me from going is that my mom agreed to work on Saturday, even though she had agreed previously that she would drop max off at the daycare. I'll have to see what time she plans to work at to see if that will conflict. Not that her working is my major objection, but it is that she does not in general work on Saturdays, and although I am not sure who she is working with, someone was calling yesterday trying to find her to ask her about working, and I know it is someone that she in general attempts to avoid. So, if it is with that person, I have no choice but to believe that this was solely to spite me (insert a bunch of angry words here).
    And now I must stomp angrily off to class.
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    Don't look at it that way. If your mom has to work then she has to work.
     
    What is their big deal about your trip in the first place?
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    Umm, How old are you?  I agree with forpaws if mom has to work she has too.  So go drive yourself. 
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    Oh Angel...the big deal is to see me and Markie...LOL!
     
    Jen,
     I have to go to Gettysburg after showing so why don't you just e-mail me and I'll see what I can do to come out your way...I have no idea where you are but I was thinking it was near Harrisburg...e-mail me, we'll work something out [;)]
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    For the inquiring minds, I am 20. I was going to drive myself, actually, I think my sister is/was going to come. My mom doesn't have to work, for many reasons, none of which I will list in fear of pissing people off.
    Jaime, I may still be coming tomorrow, but i'll have to check to see if she can drop Max off or not. If not, i'll have to send him for the day anyway because it's his free day, and then I won't have a good excuse not to clean the mess that is my room.
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    Firstly, if you own the car, drive wherever you want in the car :).
     
    2ndly, I agree you need to drive highways more often because they cannot be avoided.  Heck they are easier to drive on and not get lost than getting lost someplace you have never been on regular roads!
     
    3rdly, why can't you bring Max?  What is going on in Harrisburg... is it a show? 
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    Well, you want to go drive.   Go have fun!  Hey your over 18 and of free will go for it!  Seize the moment and go!
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    Maybe she is working for spite but also maybe out of love for you.  My 23 year old son bought a motorcycle today.  One of those crotch rockets.  We had a big, big fight over it.  He thinks I'm paranoid because I work in a hospital and have seen the damage a bike crash can cause.  It isn't pretty.  I just pray to God that I don't have to bury him this summer.  Just be careful...us parents sometimes don't know how to say, I'm scared for you and I love you more than my own life.  We just come off as a pain in the fanny.  I'm sure your parents love you.   
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    Parents are supposed to be pains....wait till its your turn....We worry because we love are kids and want them to be happy, healthy and safe... We aren't supposed to be your friends all the time....Being a parent is a tough job and can be thankless...we are very often the bad guys......because we don't always agree with our kids!
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    Firestorm, it will never be my turn, because I will never have kids. Only dogs, and a snake, and a few more lizards. Therefore I will never become a hippocrit. 
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    LOL!  How many of us parents said that before we became parents!  LOL! 
     
    Now my mother's voice comes out of my mouth sometimes and it scares me!!!!
    When my daughter tells me she hates me I answer "Great - I used to say that to Grandma, it just means I am doing my job right!". 
     
     
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    I remember when I was 20 and saying the same thing.  You might really know yourself at 20 and maybe I didn't, but things change.  That biological clock they talk about, it really does start to tick at some point for some women.  I am not that much older than you and can remember being a student, and was actually engaged (for 4 yrs I might add b/c I wasn't in any hurry), and not even being able to imagine being married, let alone having children.  With the instinct you have with all your furr babies, I bet it will hit you sooner or later!
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    I thought something very similar.  Well some body has to be the ortho statistic.  It was me.[;)
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    I think that as long as a child lives in the parents home, this is going to happen.  The fact that you pretty well avoid highways is going to make them nervous.  Especially when you suddenly decide to take a trip to a "big city" that involves driving on interstates.

    It's tough to have "adult" children living at home.  My youngest son is 26 and still at home.  It's hard for me to treat him as an adult, since he often doesn't act like one (for example, he will NOT get up for work in the mornings without my bugging him).  I try to NOT treat him like a child and to respect him as an adult, but, bottom line, he still LIVES here so it's not easy.  he has his agenda, and I have mine, and they don't always match up.  When he gets a wild hair and decides to take a trip, yep, I worry.  But I tell him it concerns me and let him make his own decision.  And let me tell you, that is HARD to do.  I think it would be easier for your folks to treat you like an adult if they saw signs that you are trying to BE one...and that's not a put down cuz I don't know all the particulars, just a parental generalization.
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    [:D]Well that is your choice to never have kids.  But I know of people who said they would never have kids and well they did.   Good for you that you have your life planned.[:D]