Oh Jeez, Am I Doing Right By Sally??

Decided that worm can....can stay closed...lol.

ORIGINAL: rwbeagles

Decided that worm can....can stay closed...lol.

 
The moderator Gina is closing worm cans??   I guess that's part of your job..

If you mean closing the thread....umm no. It's open.
 
I re-thought what I posted and decided I didn't want to go there...[]

I agree with some of the things everyone is saying (about him being so dangerous).  I do have a different perspective that hasn't been brought up....
 
Has anyone thought that maybe she's still with him because everyone is telling her he's not good for her?  Being in a simmilar situation (not as bad, but still bad enough), I stayed with a guy because #1 I really thought he would change & #2 people were telling me how wrong he was for me.  I eventually got rid of him after I had been in college for a year + (only after being with him for 2.5 years).  Has anyone sat down with her and listened to her side without judging?

I see your point... but if the family is scared of him, her side doesnt really matter IMO.  If he makes them afraid for their safety, they should not compromise that for her.  If she wants to stay with him anyway I can see the family not wanting to put themselves in danger along with her.  And if the talking to her doesnt help... 
 
Im sure she does have her side and her reasons... still doesnt make it right for her.  And this is just my opinion, but if shes staying with him only because people are telling her not to, its very childish.
 
I dont want to get into analyzing others lives when I know absolutely nothing, lol.  I just want Christina and her family and dogs to be safe.[]

Question, point blank...
Where is HE going for the holiday?  If he isn't welcome at his mother's house, then where is he going?  Why can't she go there with him? 

If you're going out to the holiday gathering w/your family Christmas Day (where she is not welcome), then maybe that is the time she heads back to her OWN home and sits there, rather than in your house.

It sounds like a hugely volatile situation that might supercede whatever normal tolerances we have for ignoring weird behavior. 
ETA - I'm glad you're not going to lie about Sally and put any onus on her.  Because, seriously, if this guy did come over and has this "I can hurt anyone and feel no responsibility for it" attitude, he probably wouldn't think twice about striking your dog (or worse).  Particularly if he came over -despite warnings- and thought he'd be threatened by her.