A Man and His Love For His Dog

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    A Man and His Love For His Dog

    While searching the Internet for different places to go on vacation, my wife, Debbie says to me, "You know, if we put Michelle in the vet while we are away, we could do more while on vacation." I looked up at her and exclaimed, "Not my baby, you're not. Can you imagine what it would be like being in a cage for 8 to 9 days?"
    My "baby" is our little two year old chihuahua, Michelle. I bought her for Debbie as a Christmas present and in the time since she had become "my baby".
     
    "You know if we do the train like we want, we will have to find someone in Durango to keep her", my wife reminds me. "I know, but it will only be overnight at the most." I tell her, knowing even that bothered me.
     
    Finally the eventful day comes. We leave Manitou Springs heading halfway across the state of Colorado to Durango.
     
    While driving, I would find myself looking down at Michelle, who would be looking up at me with those sad looking brown eyes as if she knew what was fixing to happen to her.
     
    When we arrived in Durango late in the afternoon on Tuesday, we located a vet hospital and went in and talked with them about leaving her. Reserved, yes, but really, no problems there. After talking with them, we thought we better see if we could even get tickets for the train. Silently, I was hoping they were all sold out, but no such luck. We purchased two tickets for $110.00 for the following morning. We mentioned to the clerk about having to get a place for the dog, she recommend another vet hospital. So, we went to check it out.
     
    As with the other, this vet hospital was the same. Didn't open early enough to bring the dog in the same morning as the ride and didn't stay open long enough to pick the dog up the same day. A two day overnight. I didn't like it and was really feeling bad, but made the choice to go ahead and leave her and pick her up two days later. I told Deb to go to the car and get Michelle.
     
    When Debbie brought Michelle in, she started shaking real bad as if she was cold, but I knew it was because she was real nervous. I took Michelle from Debbie while she and the lady at the desk were talking. Michelle was shaking so bad I wanted to just walk out with her, but after spending $110.00 on tickets I figured I better stay. The lady went to the rear and came back with a rope for Michelle. Michelle started shaking violently after the lady put the rope around her neck and she desperately tried to get closer to my shoulder, not wanting me to let her go.
     
    My mind raced back 24 years, when after my second child, Stephanie, was born, I left the hospital and went back to my mom and dad's house where Debbie's mom was waiting to take Chris, our first born, back to Enid to stay a couple of days so I could tend to Debbie and Steph. With all of the confusion going on and only being 2 years old, Chris didn't want to go. I could see him, again, screaming, "Daddy, daddy!!!" with tears streaming down his face and his outstretched hands as my mother-in-law pulled him away from me, but I let him go. That upset me so much that I went into the bathroom and threw up. Early next morning, instead of going to Kingfisher to see how Debbie and Steph was doing, I went to Enid and brought him home.
     
    I couldn't stand it any longer as the lady pulled Michelle from my hands. Without looking at my wife, I went out the door toward the car with tears running down my face. Debbie followed me and when she got into the car, she asked if I was okay. "What is wrong with me?" I asked, implying that I was a man and a man isn't supposed to cry, especially over a dog. Deb told me that Michelle was really special to me. I couldn't even get composed to get a campsite. I had to get Deb to do it.
     
    I couldn't eat that night. I got inside the sleeping bag, completely depressed about even coming to Durango. I tossed and turned all night long.
     
    The next morning, as I woke up, Deb says, "I think we need to just go get Michelle." I looked at her and said, "I'm doing the train." Deb told me it wasn't worth it as she told me she also was very upset at what we had done to Michelle. She said we would talk about it at breakfast. Funny, we didn't really say much of anything during breakfast. So finally, I broke the ice, "So, you don't want to do the train then?" "Not if we are going to be this upset." Debbie replied. I remarked that we probably would just lose the $110.00 because of such short notice and she said she didn't care. So, off to the vet hospital we went and got Michelle back. She was so excited to see us and it was as if she was saying please don't ever do that to me again.
     
    Because Deb paid for two night at the Durango campgrounds, we stayed one more day and then we started back for home.
     
    Our $110.00 ride on the Durango & Silverton train? Well the heck with that. You might say, it was our drive to the vet to get our dog, Michelle.
     
    No, I didn't get our money back like I suspected and I really don't care. I am thinking about getting a picture of Michelle and with those unused tickets and putting them in a frame. I now know what is more important to me. Call me silly. Call me stupid, I don't care.
    You know, sometimes it is hard to be a "man" and if any man will tell you different, well, let's just say he is not quite telling the truth.
    I have been to Colorado many times and had fell in love with the state, but after all this, I don't care if I ever go back.
     
    I'm glad I'm home.
     
     
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    Wow, that is so sweet.  I had a similiar situation, we went out of state, about a five hour drive, to visit my husbands family.  We left our dogs in our home under our neighbors care.
     
    I can't explain it - my neighbors own their mom, and I fully trust them.  But I just felt like something might go wrong, and I felt I had to get back to them.  Turns out everything was fine but they wouldn't eat. 
     
    I wish everyone took such good care of their dogs like you did!
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    What a nice and warm story, I understand you completely.
     
    My husband and I want to travel across Europe, especially to Portugal where I was often as a child but now we`ve found out that dogs are not allowed in restaurants, at the beach, almost nowhere and so we decided not to go there.
    When my dogs are not welcome I don`t need to go there, I couldn`t leave them and have fun, knowing, they are waiting for us and not understanding why we left them at home.
     
    • Gold Top Dog
    I totally understand.  We recently lost our beloved dog, and in his later years, we simply didn't go on overnight trips together.  Once there was a death in the family and we both had to go to the funeral out of state.  We literally flew there, stayed a night and returned.  Our friend stayed at the house with our dog, and they were good buddies, but he still paced all night long and was very upset the whole time.  He was quite old then, and we never left him after that.
     
    The couple times we left him for a week or so when he was young, I was a wreck the whole time.  We even called from Europe a few times to check on him.  The way you described being sick after witnessing your son's reaction to your separation is "spot on."  I don't have kids, but that's exactly how I would feel in the same situation - dog or child. 
     
    Don't you find it baffling that people can just give up their dogs and walk away permanently?  Whether it's at a shelter or worse, I don't know how people do that without remorse.  I guess people like us are made of different stuff (and yes, it's pretty soft stuff, that's for sure!!).
     
    Michelle is a very lucky little pup to have such devoted parents!
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    It takes a real man, one that is so sure of his masculinity, that he can show his love.
    That little Michele is one lucky girl!
    • Gold Top Dog
    I love to read everyones posts, but I especially love to read those posted by men.  Its just so great to see that some men are willing to take the time necessary to share.  That was a wonderful story, and your completely normal in my opinion.  I never left my Kayla with anyone other than my mom and I still worried.  I would be out playing pool thinking I wanted to go home to be with Kayla.  Thank God I have a husband who feels exactly the same as I do about them, cause he wont go to sleep unless Bailey is under the covers with him, it was the same with Kayla.  Kayla was his daughter, as well as mine, but its so nice to see the bond.  He used to love putting her sweater on her, wouldnt let me do it cause he wanted to. [:D]
     
    Thanks for sharing.
    • Gold Top Dog
    The only long trip I've been on since we got Willow was our honeymoon.  And, it was very hard, I tried not to check in every night because we left her with someone who we both trusted very much so I knew if anything was going on they would call. 
     
    As soon as we got home (and it was pretty late but I didn't care) I drove the 45 minutes to pick her up.  She was a real mess, she didn't eat much, she was panting, she was so wound up she vomited when we got home.  It wasn't anything they did or didn't do, she just couldn't handle being left.  I had no idea she'd react that way then.  She had only been with us about 4 months at that point.  Now, I can't imagine it. 
     
    But, you know, the way I see it is, I have no real desire to travel.  I'm happy spending my time with her and someday if the time is right we will do more traveling.  But, it's not worth it if we've got to worry and she isn't happy.
    • Gold Top Dog
    What a sweet story.  I think I might have been tempted to smuggle her on the train.[:D] Even if they found out mid-trip, they probably wouldn't have tossed you off.

    Joyce
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    But, you know, the way I see it is, I have no real desire to travel.  I'm happy spending my time with her and someday if the time is right we will do more traveling.  But, it's not worth it if we've got to worry and she isn't happy.

     
    I feel the same way.  I am originally from Barcelona, Spain and reside in Houston, Texas.  Since, Romeo came to live with me I have not gone home, and I used to go every year, but I don't want him going Cargo on a 13 hour trip w/layover in Paris.  Boarding him is not an option, and I could not leave him with anyone, I left him one time with my parents for a week to go to Mexico, I trust my parents, but I was miserable the whole time, now if Romeo can't come with me, I just don't go and is ok.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I honestly feel the same way.  When I had two gsds and a cocker, we bought an RV so we could travel with the dogs.  Now that our "pup"ulation has increased, along with the price of gas, it's just not worth it to try to travel.  Honestly it's a heck of a lot of hassle and wouldn't be terribly relaxing.  If my eldest son ever decides to get married I'll have to figure something out, but basically, I'm content right where I am.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I definitely know the feeling.  My fiance and I have gone away every year for the past 6 years for 10 days.  Since we go to his cousins lake house, the dogs are not invited, which we respect.  It is his house and other people stay there too.  But we do go and we leave all three dogs with my mom.  She loves having them and they have so much fun, but I think about them constantly while we are away.  I hate to think about what they think our reason is for leaving.  I love our vacations at the lake, but I wish the dogs could be there.  I know they would love it.
    • Gold Top Dog
    I know how you feel.
     
    12-07-05 was the morning I took Shadow in to be neutered. He was about 2.5 years old at the time. He is skiddish of the vet, partly because the vet also cares for horses and cows and smells like them, to him. Anyway, we were waiting back in the kennels and I told the keeper I would have to wait and help hold Shadow while he got his sedation shot. And Shadow was so scared he vented his glands near me. He got his shot and the placed him in a kennel to wait for it to take effect. I stayed right there, smelling worse than pile of fresh dog crap, until he fell asleep. Our vet, and most in our county, keeps all surgeries overnight, no exceptions. That was the truly traumatic part for Shadow. The surgery was nothing. The separation anxiety and sense of abandonment depressed him. In addition, we had a snow and ice blizzard overnight. The next morning, I started out early so that I could be there when they open or a little before. Well, they get there a little before and it's nothing to go ahead and pick up a pet. I was wearing my cold suit. Insulated bib overalls, oversized jacket, and a watch cap. So, when I walked in the kennels, he didn't recognize me at first and he looked so morose. He thought he was being rejected and he seems to have bad associations with cages. I took off my cap and said my standard greeting and he perked up. They let him out and he could smell me. So, we went home, didn't go for a walk. He slept most of the day and ate only a little. That night, I fixed steak especially for him. Then, he was back to his jolly self and knew that he was home. This was more traumatic to him than the time we flew up to New Jersey for a weekend. Then, he was in his own backyard with a neighbor to check on him. Plenty of running space in a familiar place, etc. He didn't eat much food then, but he seemed to be okay. Staying overnight in the kennel did him no good, psychologically.
     
    And I did plenty wrong. I should have spent more time acclimating him to the vet's office. I did take along his favorite toy. At the time, I couldn't afford a lot. The procedure was only $60, including the overnight stay. Maybe a pricier vet would have let me take him home.
     
    Knowing how he reacted in a kennel helped us to decide not to kennel him when we went to New Jersey. None of our friends are set up to handle him but the neighbor was able to watch him. Another mistake on my part. I should have spent time getting him used to coming into our back yard. She was able at times to come in and check his food and water and he would retreat as far as he could.
     
     
    • Gold Top Dog
    I just went on a cruise vacation for the week and left Zoe with my parents.  She had met them 3 or so times before, one of the times being 2 weeks ago so she was familiar with them recently.  I was worried about leaving her but at the same time, I left detailed instructions for them and my dad was going to take her to work with him every day so she would barely be alone.  She ended up having a good time with them.  They gave her a lot of treats and attention.  When we got home, she was happy to see us but loved being with them too.  It was very cute seeing my dad on all 4's playing with her and a second later holding her like a baby over his shoulder unwilling to let her go :).  On this trip I was able to call once and was nervous the rest of the time but not too bad.  I knew if something really horrible had happened, my parents could call the ship.