Prayers of healing for my family

Prays being sent for you and your family.  May all of you find peace and comfort.
 
Your Aunt Marsha sounded like a wonderful lady - now she's in heaven keeping St Peter on his toes [].
 

Prayers being sent for you and your family...and hold your uncle close at this time.

She sounds like a character, I am glad you had her in your life. I will pray for you and your family

Missy, I'm so sorry for your loss of a your special aunt.  She sounds like quite a character, and she was obviously a fighter, too.  I know it's a generalization, but for couples of older generations and who've been married for decades, it seems so much harder when the wife predeceases the husband.  I think men of that generation depended on their wives to handle so much of the "daily stuff," that they're lost without them.  I know there are plenty of exceptions, but I've seen it in our family and friends.  The widowers seem to be in a fog for quite a while.  It sounds like your uncle has a big family who will help him a lot.
 
I'm sure it gives you comfort to think that your aunt will have at least one special little dog to keep her company, and they'll both watch over your uncle, you, and your family.  Take care, and hugs to you.

Thank you so much Robin, Marty, Debbie and Tracy for your words of support.  She was a character... funny as she could be, quick to defend those she loved and such a good all around person.  Aunt Marsha & Uncle Joe were my favorite duo in the family.   
 
You know the routine that some of us fall into?  Especially if someone we love is sick, whether it be family, friends or furry kids, how we put them first?  My uncle took care of her 24 hours a day and I worry about him... he took care of her for over two years and didn't take care of himself and it's starting to show.  I can't begin to tell you how much I have enjoyed being around them over the years. 
 
Tracy, you're right... it does give me comfort that she'll have a special little doggie to keep her company.  In fact, that's been one of my prayers that FeFe finds her & keeps her company.  We're (hubby and I) are also going to make a point of visiting with my uncle more often as well as other friends and family that we adore.  Time isn't something that's promised. 
 
Thank you all again. 

My thoughts and prayers are with your uncle and your family.  This time of year is so difficult when you've recently lost someone you love, and after 47 years together, I cannot even imagine how your uncle must be feeling.  I hope you're all able to find comfort in your fond memories of your aunt and know that she would've wanted that.

Thank you, Cathy.  I always think how difficult it is to lose someone you love near the holidays - all the years that you celebrated with them, making memories with them and now it's all changed.  My husband lost his mom & grandpa between Thanksgiving & Christmas.  I still think it's amazing how he continues to go on. 
 
To make matters worse, the day Aunt Marsha assed was her son's 40th birthday.  I felt so sorry for him.  My uncle looks lost... as if there's something he needs to do for her and then reality hits that she's not here anymore.  []
 
She gave us a lot of fun memories to hold onto over the years.  I pray that we'll all have peace of mind & heart soon in knowing she's not suffering anymore.

My mom died in November when I was 12.  It was the saddest Christmas I've experienced.  My dad had us do the things we normally we would, but gosh, it was rough.  
 
I think it's usually much harder for men to lose their wives, especially after such a long life together.  Women usually have a better support group and find it easier to reach out to others than men do.  I've known men who just became sort of reclusive, and it's very sad.  I'm sure this will be difficult for all of you, but having you and your family around will go a long way in making these next few weeks less difficult for your uncle.

I am so sorry about your aunt.  At least she will be remembered by so many people who cared about her and loved her for who she was.  My sympathy is with you and your family..

Bless her heart, my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.

You and your family are in our thoughts.
As to your question about fx hips, the answer is that, statistically, many elders who do this are deceased within a year.  I'm not sure why, but it may be a combination of things.  I think the inability to be independent depresses them.  The failure to be able to keep moving slows some of the other body systems.  Who knows?  At any rate, I'm really sorry this happened to her.

My mom died in November when I was 12.  It was the saddest Christmas I've experienced.  My dad had us do the things we normally we would, but gosh, it was rough.  

I think it's usually much harder for men to lose their wives, especially after such a long life together.  Women usually have a better support group and find it easier to reach out to others than men do.  I've known men who just became sort of reclusive, and it's very sad.  I'm sure this will be difficult for all of you, but having you and your family around will go a long way in making these next few weeks less difficult for your uncle.

Cathy, I couldn't imagine how hard it was for you to lose your mom at such a young age.  Hubby was 19 when he lost his mom & grandpa and just as your dad, my husband's dad decorated the house with all the trimmings like she used to do.  He even bought her something she had wanted for a while (a hutch to show off her dishes and a curio cabinet for all her doll & angel collection).  He later gave the hutch to us, I still have her dishes in it as well as the gift tag my FIL wrote on.  Men DO become reclusive, I watched my FIL become & stay a hermit for years.  My uncle still has his two brothers around (one of them is my dad) and they are making it a point of having coffee with him each day. 
 

I am so sorry about your aunt.  At least she will be remembered by so many people who cared about her and loved her for who she was.  My sympathy is with you and your family..

Bless her heart, my thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.

 
Thank you Lesley & Kim.  We all have fond memories of her, even when she was sick she could say something that had us cracking up & she knew it would make us laugh.  An example... when she could no longer move around, she told my uncle to come stand in front of her & he asked 'why honey?'  she answered, "so I can SMACK YOU."  Might not sound funny but the expressions they both use were so animated.  She tried to look serious but we all saw her smirk.
 

You and your family are in our thoughts.
As to your question about fx hips, the answer is that, statistically, many elders who do this are deceased within a year.  I'm not sure why, but it may be a combination of things.  I think the inability to be independent depresses them.  The failure to be able to keep moving slows some of the other body systems.  Who knows?  At any rate, I'm really sorry this happened to her.

 
Thank you, Anne.  I've seen it many times with elder members of our extended family that pass away quickly after breaking a hip.  I believe my aunt was doing much better because she did have the option of walking around or at least moving around in a wheelchair.  Once she became bedridden it all changed.  Thanks for giving your thoughts on it... it's odd how fast circumstances change when that happens.

I'm so sorry about your aunt.  I just went thru losing an aunt to cancer in September.  My uncle is handling it about the same as yours. 
 
As for the hips--my grandfather was in his 90's and still working when he fell getting a coffee at Dunkin Donuts.  He got himself up and drove home in extreme pain.  He of course, ended up in the hospital and never came home.  It still kills me to think that he would of lived another few years if it hadn't been for that fall.  And, NOBODY helped him up, can you believe that one?? 

You know Lori, it's hard to believe someone wouldn't help your grandfather after he fell... that we be extremely upsetting to me.   How could anyone ignore him? Just like you, there are things I wonder about... all the 'what ifs' drive me up a wall.
 
Thank you for posting and I'm so sorry about your aunt that passed away in September.  And I'm sorry for your uncle as well.  Just when you think someone has beat cancer, it seems to come back with a vengeance.  I don't understand why it seems the good ones are put thru such pain and suffering.