Entrance Problem

I never greet my dogs when I get home, I leave like nothing is going on, and I return the same way.

I am one of the one that ignore the dogs when I get in until everyone is calm.  Then call them over for a fuss, asking for a sit or a down first.  I am reinforcing their calm behaviour, I am implemenenting NILIF and I am also making it easy for them to succeed (it's much easier to listen to you and sit and stay sitting if calm).
 
My advice is - don't try to reinforce or define the hierarchy bewteen the two dogs.  As long as you ensure you are "at the top", it doesn't matter a jot who gets fed first or petted first.  Also, you could easily get it wrong and support the wrong dog which would make matters a lot worse - particularly now when the "pack" is on the brink of change as the youngster finds his place in it as a young adult rather than a puppy.  Base it on behaviour - eg. first to sit gets a treat etc.  Dogs are smart enough to work out that privelegs are doled out for good behaviour rather than having anything to do with rank and if one is slow to respond, this tactic helps him realise he's got to pull his act together!

I, on the other hand, always tell my dogs goodbye.  Sheba and Tyler are always upstairs, and usually on the couch when I leave for work in the morning.  They get a pat on the head, a belly rub, and usually a kiss and I tell them "Mom has to go to work".  When we are ALL leaving and the house will be empty, everyone goes to crates and again, I will tell them that I'm going to the store (translates to won't be gone long) that I'm going to see Grandma (translates to much longer) or going to work (translates to all darned day).
 
When I come home, if the dogs are loose in the house, they get a general "hi guys" when I walk in the door, and then whoever is calmest gets the first greeting.  I don't tolerate being mobbed at the door, or over excited herding of me or running around in circles nipping someone elses butt.  I ignore that behavior and it doesn't happen any longer.  They get a general "hi guys" and when I have put things down and away and when I am ready I sit down and call whoever is calmest to me FIRST.  If they are home alone and crated, well, whoever is quiet is whoever is released first.  Calm and quiet behavior is what earns them my attention, the first bowl of food or whatever.
 
But, I always say goodbye and give them an idea of how long I'll be away.......