Chuffy
Posted : 1/24/2008 6:09:16 PM
Dog_ma
FourIsCompany
If I were to use ONLY reward and never use punishment, I would only be giving 1/2 the information I have available. I would be saying, in essence, "This is what I want. This is what I want. This is what I want." That doesn't tell the dog when he's doing something that I don't want.
How confusing would life be if no one ever gave you feedback on what *not* to do? Either as a person or a dog.
I'm coming in late to this one, but I have to answer this because I can answer it BEAUTIFULLY! I am going to tell you all about my driving lessons again.
Well, as some of you might know, my driving wasn't going too well. I'd actually EXPERIENCED the "shutting down" and I walked away from that thinking, "wow, so that's what it feels like for a dog". The VAST majority of the time, my driving instructor was not angry with me, nor was she impatient or unkind. She was very very nice. She DID give me a lot of "information" about where I was going wrong. Why was I so frustrated? Why did I feel like I just couldn't do it? I was on the verge of quitting my lessons. A couple of times I'd be almost in tears.
I spoke to another instructor, in a last ditch attempt to crack it. He was honest with me and said that, for the stage I was at and the number of hours practise I'd had, he would expect me to be TWICE my age!! I was very very far behind. What was wrong?
We went out for a little drive. I made several fundamental mistakes (forgetting to indicate on a couple of occasions for example). He ignored them! He focused on what I did RIGHT at any given time. If I felt nervous or fretted because I'd gone wrong, he reassured me and told me hey, don't worry about it! And where I did do something wrong, something that would be better not repeated, rather than draw attention to that he would say (for example): "When you are approaching a roundabout, just do this". (Can you say, "alternative desirable behaviour"????!!!)
You know what, I can drive. I just need a bit more practise, especially on manouvures, and then I can pass my test.
I don't think I am a "soft" person. No way, I am as thick skinned as they come! So WHY did I do so poorly with an instructor who gave me criticism, depsite the fact it was kind, constructive and well-intentioned? I actually LIKED my driving instructor. She is a very nice person. Why was the learning process inhibited? Why did I dread my lessons?