Kim_MacMillan
Posted : 8/18/2011 8:44:01 AM
Dyan, I don't get the feeling that anyone is jumping down your throat. I get the feeling that people are getting a bit frustrated that you don't seem to understand the points we are trying to make. Of course Gibby is a great dog, and does doggy things! Nobody is questioning that. Nobody is questioning the level of training that you have done with him.
But if you can look at it another way - your responsibility to your dog should also include being responsible so that your dog does not frighten or scare other dogs as well. I'm not sure if you've dealt with dogs with aggression before, in terms of human aggro or dog aggro (maybe you have) - but it can be a frustrating time. Gaci was (is?) once that way. You wouldn't know it now to see her out in public, or mingling with a group of boarders here at the house, but it's true. And with all of the work we've done to get there, it can really frighten her and throw her on the defensive if she sees another dog come barreling towards her. Even if the dog was just coming to see me - she wouldn't get that. It's not even about the injuries that would result, as I'm sure 90% of these conflicts are dealt with with no real contact. But at the same time I would be downright angry at the owner of that dog for allowing their dog to run out into our space, even if their dog "was friendly", because it could be a setback for an unstable dog, or depending on the dog, it could be an altercation that I have been trying to prevent for the last several years!
I know you've come here for information. But unfortunately I think the problem lies in that I think you were (as we all often are) hoping for us to agree with you, talk about how bad that owner is, and how irresponsible, etc. But really the conversation needs to be to look at your dog - because that's the only one you can be responsible for!
We can't give the pitbull owner advice, and because they are not here to share their side, it's really naive of anyone here to assume they know what the owner is feeling or experiencing, and we definitely can't assume that they aren't doing everything THEY can to prevent problems as well (again - having worked with a lived with aggressive dogs). THEY have their dog onleash and contained while in public (and I don't think it's fair to say that because she's tiny, she will not be able to hold the dog back. I am a small person, and I have been able to control some of the most out of control animals). THEY have warned you that their dog is a certain way (many ignorant owners do not go to that extent!). THEY have said they don't walk their dogs in certain areas because of it. Those all to me right now sound like they are doing their best to help a dog in need. Whether it's enough - I don't know. But at least they aren't being ignorant about their dog. They are showing some caution.
So well-meaning people here are *trying* to give you advice to keep your dog safe, and you safe, and so that you can make sure you are doing YOUR part to not make the situation worse than it may be. You came here for discussion. Discussion is all that I'm seeing. Just because somebody might give you advice that you didn't expect, it doesn't mean they aren't trying to help you. Folks who don't want to help you don't post. To take the time means that somebody, somewhere - wants you to be safe. It's hard to understand emotion in text, for sure, and sometimes there's only one way to say things - openly and honestly. And sometimes it is hard to accept what truly is good information, because it does go against what we've been doing up to this point.
I don't think anybody here is calling you irresponsible, but rather saying that if you continue the way you are going, knowing what your dog will do in a given situation (normal doggy things), knowing that this dog will walk by your home (not a normal doggy), and something happens - that will be an irresponsible act. Because you can't any longer say you didn't know. It would be different if the first time you ever saw the dog something happened, and it was a surprise to everybody. But it's no surprise. You know. So now it is up to you to decide to make a change. Because you can't control any other situation, other than your own. That is, I feel, the important part of what folks are trying to tell you.