I am hoping to get some advice on managing Veronica's reactivity to other dogs.
Veronica is somewhat fearful, reactive and can lack confidence (in certain situations - in other situations she is inappropriately over confident).
She has poor dog - dog social skills and is very dog reactive; despite living with littermates until 10 weeks of age and being socialized since she was 12 weeks old. She is not DA; she does not want to hurt other dogs, she has never tried to hurt another dog. My best assessment @ 6 trainers and 1 behaviorist later and just observing her myself is...she is spoiled and wants to be the center of attention. She wants to interact with other dogs and wants them to defer to her. She wants to be "dominant"; but she is really not a dominant dog and this tension between how she wants the interaction to go and what the other dog has in mind creates allot of stress for her. She is also insecure and fearful, especially in new situations; and especially with new dogs.
I have been working with her on her dog reactivity for about 3 years. We have been very successful; but we have never progressed beyond a certain point. We have not been able to get to the point of phasing out the use of treats. We have also not gotten to the point where she will offer the desired behaviors without prompting. In other words, she is always waiting for the opportunity when she will see the dog before I do and get a few good barks in.
She also has episodes of back sliding. She will do extremely well, then we will have an encounter...usually with another dog that is reactive in some way. It is almost like the other dog being reactive gives Veronica an excuse, like "he started it"! Once she has an opportunity to react, that sets her off for a few days and she is in react mode and we have to up the ante to get her to behave...then once she has the experience of ignoring a few dogs, she's back on track.
The positives are her "reactions" have toned down significantly. When she does react now it's mostly some barking and half hearted not even really lunging, pulling. At one point in time, she did the full on snarly, lunge with spittle flying. The other positive is that when she has a setback, she recovers more quickly and is back on her game in a matter of days vs. weeks/months.
Other info that may be more or less important...she is more likely to react (even if it is just tensing and orienting to another dog) if it is the only other dog in the environment; like encountering a dog on a walk. If you take her somewhere crawling with dogs like an outdoor concert...she is almost "sensory over-loaded" and less reactive.
At training class there are certain dogs she will react to and will bark at them when they first see each other or if they get too close. She can do training exercises with them and then we can get quite close, but she always looks for the opportunity to get a bark in...sort of like "watching mom, ignoring dog, watching mom, whip of head, up yours flea bag, watching mom, ignoring dog".
So what I would like to know...is can anyone offer some advice to help us get past this point. We seem to be stuck in a constant cycle of make progress, get really good, almost perfection (but still relying on treats), setback, repeat. We only get so far and cannot progress beyond that point. I know it's me, I just don't know what to do differently.
The methods I've been using are teaching "watch me"/"leave it" mark & treat and also Conditioned Emotional response. I didn't really know I was using CER, I was mainly shoving handfuls of treats in her mouth when I didn't want to be embarrassed; but then I read that it is actually a technique; and honestly it works better than "watch me"...but only to a point. We cannot get past a certain point.
I think I also have to work on me. I know I get tense. It's not a "OMG what's going to happen" tense; and I didn't even realize this may be a factor...because I'm not even remotely worried about managing the situation and Veronica is not actually DA...at all. I get tense because I get caught up in the whole "dog training" thing and every encounter is an opportunity for success or failure. Not the dog's, mine. So I think I actually start to get performance anxiety and my body tenses. I also get caught up in the "if she reacts, then we backslide"...which after 3 years, you think I would say "so freakin' what, then we backslide and we keep working and we get back to where we are and we keep trying".
I mean it's not the end of the world if she never gets any better; she can really go just about anywhere I want her to. It would be nice if she could go there and I didn't have to have 100% of my attention on her 100% of the time; it would be nice if I could just trust her to behave politely on her own. It would be nice if the behaviors became so ingrained, that I didn't have to have a treat on me constantly. But what it really is...is I am failing at something. I know I am...and it's killing me. Any ideas on what I can do to get out of this cycle and get to the next level?