SalsaCat84
Posted : 5/19/2010 12:01:11 AM
I'd like to point out that HE IS NOT AGGRESSIVE! He was merely demonstrating rude behavior. He was abandoned in a yard from day one, and lived most of his early life in a shelter where he wasn't taught proper manners. He was pushy and rude, NOT AGGRESSIVE!! There is a difference. I had to start at square one with him, and teach him how to behave properly around other dogs. Here is an update for those of you who doubt the method's I've used to recondition my dog's responses. He now eats his own food, and goes to lie down in the family room or follow me around the house. He doesn't even bat an eye at my other two dogs as they eat their food. He walks perfectly on leash around other dogs, and is the favorite participant of our community's pack walks that happen on Thursday, and is now what I like to call a buddy dog. We pair him up with dogs who demonstrate any sort of shyness or aversion to other dogs because he is extremely patient with them, and is an excellent doggy mentor. He frequents the dog park and hiking trails with his brothers, and has demonstrated a love for children that knows no bounds. Within the past three months of my working with him in a positive way, he has blossomed into an amazing young gentleman. He still shows a lot of interest in my cat, but he's progressing nicely, and can now be trusted to sleep with the other dogs by our bed at night.
I have taken into account everyone's words on this site, some with more than a grain of salt, and some with an antacid because they didn't agree with me. However, I have found what works for my boy, as I'm sure you have found what works for your dogs. Thank you to those who have offered their sincere advice intended to help, those who have offered their blunt but constructive criticism, and even to those of you who I will dub the opposing force needed to spur me on to achieve the results needed with my dog.
"Countless training books and countless trainers urge the dog owner to not let dogs "get away with" misbehavior but forget to mention that behavior is a pure form of communication. If a behavior exists that an owner finds upsetting, there's a problem that needs to be investigated and resolved. The dog has a reason for acting as he does, and it's not always because, given an inch, he wants to take a mile."
- Suzanne Clothier
Dexter was trying to tell me that he was in need of greater leadership. My other dogs were quite fine with following my leadership, but Dexter wanted to know why it was beneficial for him to do so. After checking myself against his buffer, I found that once I figured out what best worked for him, everything just clicked. Sometimes we have to put aside our arrogance that dictates we need to force our dogs to obey us. We have to listen to what they're trying to tell us, and work with them. Forcing them to obey our commands may win us the battle, but earning their voluntary cooperation wins the war.
"If I can listen to what he tells me, if I can understand how it seems to him, if I can sense the emotional flavor which it has for him, then I will be releasing the portent forces of change within him.
-Carl Rogers