'sit' him to death ... in fact, if you aren't already doing "nothing in life is free" TRY IT! There's nothing like getting a dog to the point where their butt will hit the floor at the slightest provocation. It is handy, it is wise, it is WONDERFUL and it is the best help in 'controlling' your puppy/mature dog/older dog of ANYTHING!!! (if you go to Google or any decent search engine and literally copy the next line into the search
"nothing in life is free" training
The key is consistency -- and that's habit on *Your* part more than anything. You want your dinner? Sit. You want to be petted? Sit. You want my attention? Sit. But then the ball is in your court to ***NOTICE***
I have seen Luna (my basset beagle mix) who is a total 'not-quite-grown-up' wild child pup go from totally controllable to "ain't I perfect" when we are at pet theray just by doing nilif with her. Now granted -- we had the best impromptu training session there when we took her the first time and my husband was trying *valiantly* to get her butt on the ground before people came up to pet her. *sigh*
JUST as he finally got her rear end to touch the concrete this little Wish Child comes up to her and plants this big old 2 year old kiss smack on her nose. Luna's eyes got the size of saucers "WOW--- I SITTED AN I GOT KISSED YAAAAA HOOOOOOO!!!!"
At this point when we get there her butt hits the ground and STAYS there. I have seen her watch people as they walk by with this absolutely incredulous look on her face that says "HEY.... you .... foolish human!!!!!! I am ****SITTING**** here !!! Can't you SEEE me??? Don't you UNDERSTAND??????? HEY YOU COME PET ME!!!"
It is absolutely hysterical to see -- and obviously this perfect little behavior comes into focus in this one spot in the universe -- but it was the ultimate in "positive reinforcement" -- she got the attention she was desperately craving that one time and a 'higher value' treat could never have been found.
But that's how you train this -- you bring with you something your dog values highly -- doesn't always have to be food -- one bounce of a favorite ball can be a valuable reward. But you see someone coming off in the distance. Get him to 'sit'. Then walk a few paces to the left. Sit again. He gets up in excitement? Nope ... Sit. over and over if you have to. But your goal is a calm 'sit'. And if he gets way too out of control so that he hasn't heard your command for excitement -- it's time to terminate the exercise and go the OTHER way.
There's a fine line when training a pup -- you work on a 'thing' as long as it's productive. But When you begin to bang your head against the proverbial rock, turn him around the OTHER way, walk briskly elsewhere, and then right away "Sit". PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE.
Sometimes when we are training a rambunctious pup we forget to set him up to succeed. WE try a 'thing' and it's a dismal failure. So we walk away half annoyed and the dog is frustrated. Don't terminate your training on a sour note. Walk the other way, get a bit out of sight and give him the one common command he will do.
If you don't have 'sit' down yet -- work on it constantly. Work on just having him respond to your voice saying his name. Saying his name and having him look up at you with a happy wag ... PRAISE HIM FOR IT. Then tell him to 'sit'.
They like to 'win' as much as we do. So make sure any little 2 minute training sessions you do end in a 'win'.
Now-- as far as truly 'training' a greet ... it needs to be set up. Before you leave next time pocket a pen and a few 3x 5 cards. You see Ms. Schmuckatella and her boxer in the distance, make sure you have YOUR name and phone on a card. and IF you can possibly get to her, hand her your card and ask her if she'd mind giving you her number that you are training your dog, know you meet her and her dog all the time and just want to run a couple of things by her.
THEN ... call her if you can and just chat. Tell her what you're trying to accomplish with YOUR dog and set up a time to meet her at that same corner or someplace out of the way in the complex so you can both kind of be "in the know".
"I want to get MY boy so he will sit even tho he sees a friend in the distance ... so next time we see you, and I keep dropping him in a sit if you'd let me approach you two slowly I'd appreciate it. And if i 'ask' you if we can say 'hi' will YOUR dog sit too??"
You just set up whatever you can ... but warn her that you aren't being rude if you turn around and walk away-- it's just 'too much' for him today. But if you can get a few people who know what you're doing it's much easier.
Sometimes exchanging numbers with someone can simply avoid conflict. If you explain to them what you are trying to require, and tell them you're starting another obedience class but you just don't want to allow YOUR dog to jump and be a royal pain.
But if they are the type who blissfully allow Poochie to wreck YOUR training ... you might just plain say "I just didn't want you to think I was being rude if I don't bring my dog near yours ... I'm just trying to avoid situations where he'll be over-stimulated until I can get him trained."
Setting your dog up in training situations is more helpful than you'd believe. You can accomplish a TON in the space of a few minutes. But allowing casual contact to go sour where your dog jumps, someone screams or you jerk on the leash -- man it does MORE damage than you can undo in weeks of training if you aren't careful.
Does that make sense??
Sometimes the 'steps' you take have to be absolutely minute. Just keep it to a situation where you can 'win'. Last time he got 'wild' when you were 100 feet from Mrs. Schmuckatella and her Poochie. If you get it so you are 20 feet closer -- you've done a GOOD thing. With some highly excitable situations just getting 6 inches closer is a major deal. But quitting while you are "ahead" is where the real success is.