Frasier is howling since Chelseas departure

• Frasier is howling since Chelseas departure Edie Burr Posted : 8/17/2006 10:37:21 AM yesterday, we had to put our Chelsea girl to sleep.. she was our companion for 14 years... and Frasier's companion for 12 years..  last night he howled..  this morning he is howling again.. after running from room to room looking for Chelsea .. Is there a time when this will stop?  I know I am at a loss  as to what to do for him I know he is grieving as I am... would Rescue Remedy help? LIKE 14 REPLIES 205 VIEWS LAST POST PAM Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• zsrg;lb ksr'pfjsoprej dfsg;va bjpskopa] Posted : 8/17/2006 8:40:04 PM I think your best bet is lots of love and affection. He is grieving just liek you and its gonna take time. Maybe soem extra special outings, treats and I'd suggest taking all her stuff out of the house away from him and trying to get her smell out of things. I'm so sorry for your loss, but it sounds like she lived a long life! 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• spiritdogs Posted : 8/18/2006 6:53:17 AM You may think I'm crazy, but sit him down and tell him what happened, why you helped Chelsea to the Bridge, and that he will see her again someday.  He will not understand your words, but your message may come through in your body language and scent... Do not ask him to stop howling - he will do it on his own once he realizes that she is not coming back during this lifetime.  In fact, if it were me, I would howl with him, before telling him the story, to let him know that I want her back, too.  Their bond was strong, and he will grieve - maybe for weeks. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Debbie R Posted : 8/18/2006 6:56:32 AM Oh, my heart is breaking for you and Fraizer. I think  what Anne said sounds wonderful and will help.  You will be in my prayers 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Edie Burr Posted : 8/19/2006 10:15:19 AM Frasier isnt an affectionate dog.. but I am trying to hold him.. and show my love for him.   We had stopped taking neighborhood walks because Chelsea had such a hard time walking with her bad hip... so last night we started the ritual again... Frasier is a little frightened and keeps looking at me for support .. this morning was better.. and we took a ride in the car this morning to drop me off at work.. he seemed to enjoy that... what I have found out.. he does not want either my husband or me to be out of his sight 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Edie Burr Posted : 8/19/2006 10:56:58 AM [X(] 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Lena (Penny Forever) Posted : 8/19/2006 11:36:31 AM I feel so bad for the both of you. I actually cried at Annes suggestion at howling with him to share in his pain and sorrow. Makes so much sense. May God speed the pain in your hearts and help you both through this. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Pam Posted : 8/21/2006 2:34:55 PM Did Frasier see Chelsea's body after she passed?  I always let the other animals see the body for at least an hour.  They usually only take a sniff and walk away.   Last month when Holly passed, Red didn't even want to go near her body.  He knew.  Then he went into mourning with me. He stopped eating, he hid in the closet and lied around lifeless.  The only thing that would perk him up was to take him for a walk.  SOmetimes 3 walks a day, was his only joy.  When we came inside it was back to mourning for both of us.    I would have prefered the howling honestly.  We got a puppy  3 weeks later and that pulled him out of his grief. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Pam Posted : 8/21/2006 2:42:15 PM oh yes we both took RRemedy.    I was in such bad shape I went to the health food store and said give me everything you got for grief.   I bought Bach's Star of Bethelem for grieving.  I was told Sweet Chestnut is best for grieving.  I bought homeopathic VALERIAN to sleep.  I bought lavendar body cream.       I was told to mix this together:   4 drops RR 2 drops Sweet Chestnut 2 drops pine 2 drops walnut 2 drops Holly mix in  the above in 1 oz of spring water  and take thru the day   I hope this helps.  0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Elaine Li Posted : 8/21/2006 10:33:36 PM The howling might be his attempt to find her.  I believe that is what wolves use it for in the wild. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Edie Burr Posted : 8/22/2006 11:33:19 AM Yes... I did let Frasier view Chelsea's remains...for about 1 hour... he did sniff her a couple of times ... looked at me and walked away.  He is still howling at night but not as much.. its now a bark and a couple howls.. When I first took him out for a walk (just the two of us) he was a little frightened.. and kept trying to walk in back of me.. now he is a little better and seems to enjoy the walk..  I have been taking him for car rides also..  Chelsea didnt like to ride in the car.. she thought it was always a trip to the vet or the groomer - so when she cried and made a fuss... so did Frasier .. but I have found that Frasier solo in the car - he seems to enjoy it. I guess this will take time.. as it is taking time for me.. I miss  my little Chelsea girl every day so I am sure its the same for Frasier.. he has never been without her for the 12 years of his life. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Haleigh l Posted : 8/23/2006 10:37:11 AM sing to my dogs when they grieve. Soft songs, happy songs, slow songs. I keep the TV on when I'm not around because the sound soothes them. My dogs also like blasting punk, so since that's all I listen to, I play that for a few hours.   Haleigh 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• labcrab Posted : 8/23/2006 2:51:17 PM I'm SO terribly sorry for your loss and his loss.   It does sound like he's calling out to her.    I think you should howl with him as well...   [] 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Pam Posted : 8/24/2006 9:16:57 AM I decided that from now on, I will always have 3 dogs incase 1 passes away.  It is just too hard on us all.   After Holly died last month, we rescued an old bulldog, and got a puppy so we are up to 3 now.  When the old guy goes, we'll get another - probably a puppy.  I would alos like to stagger the ages like 3-4 years apart, So the young one will always have another fairly active playmate. 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login
• Damarcus Damarcus Posted : 8/26/2006 1:29:39 PM I am so sorry for your lose and my condolences to you and your family.I personally think that he is lonely and know Chelsea is not coming back.Yeah i agree you should try getting her scent off of everything so he would probally stop thinking she is coming back. I Think you should get another dog for playmate to get his mind off of chelsea. Again my condolences to you and your family sincerely   Damarcus Daniels- 0 LIKE Like Share You have posted to a forum that requires a moderator to approve posts before they are publicly available. Hey, it's way more fun when you sign up or log in Connect With Connect With Sign Up Login