Can you explain this weird behavior?

    • Gold Top Dog

    Can you explain this weird behavior?

     Two of our former fosters that had been adopted out together were coming back for a visit. So DH, DD and myself went to the adoption event to see them. Dakota had been maybe 9 months old when he was adopted but spent the previous 3 months or so with me. Lola was 2 years old and had been with me for a long time. She was skittish and shy in public, horribly car sick, etc. They were adopted out together.

    Her adoptive parents have had them for nearly 3 years now. I didn't expect them to *remember* me, but I expected something. They were both rather reserved when they first got there. I held back with a casual 'put out my hand for a sniff every now and then* But they greeted DH and warmed up quickly to him. To me, Lola had no recognition whatsoever.

    Fast forward nearly 3 hours later, I did not spend the whole time hovering around them at all. I was saying goodbye to the adoptive parents. Both dogs were still rather uninterested in me. I said Lola's name again, she looked at me still with that blank look. She looked away. I kept talking to her parents, she looked at me, we made eye contact again and it was almost like I could see a switch go off in her head. She jumped up on me, she licked me, she snuggled into me, the whole bit!!

    I loved it!! But what was that about?? This was not her just warming up to someone, there was honest recognition and loving there.

     

    Susan

     

    • Gold Top Dog

    I don't know why it would have taken her so long to "recognize" who you were.  At first I was thinking it was because she was nervous due to lots of people, noise, stimulation, etc. but her greeting your DH makes that less likely.   Maybe because you held back a bit she was unsure.  Glad you did finally get the reunion you deserved. lol

     

    • Gold Top Dog

    My guess is going to be that at some time in the 3 year interval she had a very negative experience with a **woman** about your age/build that likely over-rode her recognition to you.  It's probably a good thing you DID hold back -- it allowed her to think on it and remember past whatever negative there was.

    • Gold Top Dog

     Well that makes sense. It was just so weird, it really seemed as though suddenly a switch went on and she realized who I was.

    • Gold Top Dog

     I can't really explain it, however, I have this type of thing happen. It just did recently. I met my professor twice before class. I actually saw her back in December, after having met her before in August. I was standing with a group of people, her being one of them, and talking. She walked off to check on something. I took this opportunity to ask someone else who she was. When I saw her recently again a few weeks ago, she greeted me by name, and also greeted someone else by name. I remembered the other person as having been in some classes with me before. Still though, it took me some time to figure out who the professor was. Having seen her now three times, I cannot say that I will recognize her again when I see her. She might still be in the category of unfamiliar.