Danielle Tate
Posted : 12/29/2006 6:58:03 AM
What single thing convinced you that there was a better way?
Getting to know an actual dog

I mean, I'm not very good with dogs yet; but I don't think that the whole "imposing dominance" thing really works. You have to let the dog decide you're dominant, not declare you're dominant whether the dog likes it or not.
My housemate's philosophy--the housemate who owns Mercy, my favorite dog--is all about control and punishment instead of leadership. So Mercy obeys her, but it's mostly because Mercy's afraid she'll be punished. And fear has become a bit of a problem in itself. (Mercy does love her owner--she doesn't really "live in fear". I'm only talking about the "telling Mercy what to do" part of the relationship.)
But what I've observed about Mercy, who's naturally submissive (and pees herself to prove it if you push too hard), is that when you tell her to do something, communicating with her and getting her trust are way better to get her to do what you want. You're still leading, still the "alpha", but you're not doing it by force.
For example, if you have Mercy on a leash, and you want her to come to you, the best way isn't to pull on the leash--it's to get her attention and then tell her to come. You only pull on the leash when you're teaching her
how to "come", or telling her which direction to go in.
I don't know about dominance really--I know our dogs have a hierarchy, and I know they consider us humans to be at the top of it--but I know that you can be a dog's owner and you can get the dog to do what you want, but you'll never really be a good "alpha" if the dog doesn't trust you to take care of it and treat it fairly. Leading a dog is more than tellin it what to do.
That's all.