brookcove
Posted : 7/28/2008 7:28:27 AM
There's a difference between gut panic, which is helpful, and blind panic, which helps no one. I get that gut wrench anytime one of the dogs even looks at me funny.
It happened to me last night - Zhi was laying all stretched out and looked distinctly uncomfortable. We were watching TV so it was dim in the room. I jumped up and hit the light (panicking even more because she just rolled over and looked at me instead of leaping up). But when the light came on I saw the bulge in her belly, and I remembered she had stolen and eaten one of Ben's pig feet after eating her entire dinner, plus snacks because I cut up meat last night (I toss bits to my adoring fans during the process). She was laying there going, "I can't believe I ate the whole thing!" Needless to say, she's fine this morning.
It's just the same with the kids, though believe it or not it's slightly less, because they are an age where I can tell in their talk and behavior whether it's doctor-worthy, emergency-room worthy, or kiss-it-make-it-better worthy. With kids you learn really fast, too, and come up with a game plan to help you survive all the illnesses and bumps and bruises and minor tragedies.
I think there's an added sense with dogs that no one cares quite as much as you do, not even the vet, so there's additional responsibility even when you are standing at the vet. With kids, when you walk into the doctor's exam room, it's understandable to feel some relief of responsibility. We trust the human doctors to get answers no matter what and to care almost as much as we do.
No human doctor is going to say, "Well, his quality of life is just going to be so undermined by the treatment that it's not worth it. You might want to consider letting him go quietly now." I think, even though that's part of a vet's duty and it doesn't [really make any difference in their commitment to getting answers, that that option undermines our trust in the vet.
I REALLY hope the lump is nothing, Sandra!
And good luck today with the vet, Lori.