My Dog was beaten nearly to death.

I'm glad you finally called someone---good for you!    And don't feel bad about being a stay-at --home mom.That takes a lot of work to raise children.

You guys hang in there and try to get your husband thinking the right way!  If you can somehow show them how much he would pay for a nanny for the kids..a house cleaner to take care of the home and a cook, maybe you can make they see how important you are at home.   These guys make their money and are used to worrying only about themselves.

 Its hard...I have to say that even now I listen to my friends who do work...and they pretty much think they need to work or they won't have money.   These are ladies a bit older, already raised their kids while they were working...and they seem to be afraid to quit now. One friend who is a nurse and worked part time all these years..is actully working 2 part time jobs now...and her husband makes tons of money and they have a large expensive home... belong to a Country Club and everything.  

Money IS the root of all evil. 

A good point made in the above... shooting the guy would only cause much bigger problems.... make sure you don't misplace that phone number and if that guy comes around again, USE IT!

I'm glad you brought the authorities into the issue. Keep an eye on those puppers.

 As has been said, I can't fathom being spoken to that way by myt significant other. I work full time, but even if I didn't, I know it wouldn't be an issue.  Being a male does not mean they must be a horse's rear..I think that a personality that lends themselves to speaking to a significant other, who SHOULD be their equal, in that manner is something entirely different and undesirable

I am a baby boomer, a young one but one all the same, we were caught in the inbetween era, from you had to stay at home to you had to get a job.. most of my friends shared your DH beliefs that as the paycheck spouse he had the ultimate authority. My DH and I have bounced around  that theory for years... after 25 years we do ask each other's opinions and we value them. I still consider my money mine, and his money ours...  I have a small check every month from disability, I use it as needed. I try to take on as much as I can pet wise since he bears the majority of the family bills. I handle groceries (98%) , grand kid's needs (95%), dog food and vet care (90%) , the phone& internet for the house (100%) Bob takes on Uts, mortgage, insurance, taxes.  I rarely ask him to supervise the kids and help with house work HAH! we don't go there. He can't cook, and has never grocery shopped.... since I am the creative caregiver and he is the logical breadwinner we have managed to make things work pretty darn well.

Either your DH is at his wit's end because of finances and that made him lash out in such a hateful fashion or he's a jerk. The first I'd cut slack and try to work with the other I'd toss out on his ear.  If you , yourself do not truly value the job you have taken on, and do it to the best of your ability then how can you hope some one else will? 

Hope your Max is much better with each day and that things ease up for all of you.  Hang in kiddo, this too shall pass

Bonita of Bwana

This story makes me sick to my stomach.  I would have shot the mf right between the eyes!!!!  You have a right to protect yourself, your loved ones and your property.  People who harm animals do not deserve a place on this earth - that is my opinion.  The Jeffrey Dahmers of the world usually get started this way, harming the innocent and then move on to humans - which is why I would be very afraid for your family. 

 Please keep your babies inside with you if you can.  I couldn't sleep at night wondering if that looney toon will return or not.  What if he does and you can't make it out there in time????? I'm glad you reported it and there is a record going forward,  just in case there is another incident - I pray not. 

As far as your husband goes........I dunno - he got you into some serious debt and you can't pay for basic care for your pets???? That would not work for me.  Why should they suffer?  I couldn't be with a partner with that mindset.  JMO

Please keep us posted!  My thoughts and prayers are with you.