calliecritturs
Posted : 12/1/2007 5:20:40 PM
cairnterriers
Riley has been peeing in the house alot lately, and my parents were losing their patience with him. I know that everything a dog does, is done for a reason. I figured he must have been sick, but my parents were convinced that it was a behavioral issue and that he was a "bad dog".
I hope your folks realize YOU were right and that they actually forced him to be in a lot of pain for a lot of days.
Is Riley not reliably housetrained really? Is that what caused your folks to think this? If that's the case then do some remedial housetraining (and make sure that the carpet has been cleaned with enzymatic type of cleaners so it doesn't cause him to be attracted to those spots again).
You might also keep some cranberry on hand so you can be proactive the next time. But bottom line, talk to your folks and come to an understanding that next time they honestly do need to listen to you. Sometimes just learning HOW to approach your parents (even with a 'list' if necessary) can make a difference. In other words, approaching your folks when they are in a position to 'listen' to you seriously ... rather than just trying to 'defend' Riley after a mess is made (that often degenerates into everyone yelling and saying unpleasant things to each other -- you really haven't made your point with them, and they haven't 'heard' what you *think* you've told them.)
so next time -- either after dinner or a time when your folks aren't busy ASK THEM "Mom, Dad ... can we talk for a second? I'm concerned about something." Wait to be acknowledged and actually ask them to sit down and TALK to you.
"I followed Riley this morning and his pee really stinks ... I think he's got a UTI again."
or ... I wiped Riley cos he's been trying to pee every 3 seconds again -- and I'm seeing blood again -- we have to get him to a vet".
Get even better at noticing the "symptoms" -- typically a dog with a UTI will do one of two things. Either they will STOP drinking (because it burns to pee so they don't WANT to pee so they won't drink). OR they will drink the house down because some dogs realize it burns less when they drink lots.
At this point I can actually "spot" a UTI simply by seeing how much the dog drinks. Why not ask to be the ONLY one who puts down water -- make sure the bowl is clean every day and fill it with the SAME amount of water every day at the same time. Then you should know if Riley is or is *not* drinking the same amount. That can alert you faster to a UTI.
But this way you can say to the folks "As I promised I'm watching Riley's drinking REAL close -- and he's started not drinking much again -- I chased after him to catch a few drops and it's really dark and stinky again. We'd better get him in to the vet tomorrow."
However you approach it -- and whether it's this or any one of 99999 other health concerns -- learning how to get Mom and Dad to PAY ATTENTION is no small task, but it's an important one.
Why not ask for a book for Christmas/Hannukah like Giffin and Carlson's "Dog Owners Home Veterinary Handbook". There's a new edition out and it's a great thing to just have on hand. It tells you how to do a LOT of things *yourself* (like how to help clear the anal glands and other lovely topics) so you don't have to make a needless trip to the vet.
But it also can tell you how to spot a real emergency.
You did really good -- now the next challenge is getting Mom and Dad to really listen ... and most of that is up to YOU to figure out the "how" ... it's not usually that Mom and Dad are mean. And sometimes it takes sitting down with them (again ASK for some time to talk) to say "I thot I had warned you that *I* thot Riley had a UTI ... but you thot he was being naughty. What would have been a better way to have told you. I obviously didn't do it right and I'm sorry ... so I'm trying to be mature now and learn how to communicate this better. Any suggestions?"
You ask, you'll probably get TOLD. It might not be easy .. but then again, you may be surprised. Mom and Dad may respond really well to "a step in maturity" they aren't expecting from you and it may end really well. Good luck.