Sassy and this forum family

Wow, Cathy -- I didn't realize you'd been here since way back then!  I knew you were an "old-timer" (and I mean that with affection), but I thought you were not that far behind me in your "tenure."

I joined in 2005, and like you, I found the forum when I was on a hunt for information about anal gland surgery (of all things!).  I had worries about Tonka undergoing a surgery like that at his age, and I was having trouble deciding if that was the best course of action.  The information I gathered from people who were so generous with their knowledge was invaluable before and after his surgery, as well as when his health rapidly declined later that same year.  Between posts, personal messages, emails, and even phone calls (the wonderful Callie!), I was never without great input.

Even more than that was the overwhelming support I received after Tonka died.  I honestly don't know what I would've done if I hadn't had the ears and shoulders of people here in those dark weeks and months.  While people in my "real life" were sympathetic and supportive, the people on this forum were more understanding and receptive when my grief process went on so long. 

After Tonka's death, we didn't have a dog for 5 years, and sometimes I felt silly participating on a dog forum when I wasn't a dog-parent.  But I always felt welcome, and because I have such profound gratitude for the the compassion I received here, I've remained a member, even if I don't participate as fully as others.

Our dogs certainly open our lives to circles we wouldn't otherwise have.  I've seen it here, and I've seen it in the neighborhoods where I've lived.  I suppose it's like children and how they connect parents in a community . . . but pets do the same thing!  Those relationships are tributes to beloved dogs like Sassy, Tonka, and all the others who've brought people here!

Tracy - I remember encouraging you to stay after you lost Tonka and telling you that your experience and compassion would help others. I'm so glad you did choose to stay because you've helped me immensely this week.

This forum has also been a lifeline for me also.  Through issues with my family, human and otherwise, the people here have been here for me.  I'm not sure I would have gotten through many things, especially the death of my son Michael, without all of you.

For *me* you are going thru one of the best and healthiest parts of grieving.  Figuring out and acknowledging what **this** dog did to change you and make you better.  Sometimes it's just the bond with *that* dog -- sometimes, like here, it's a whole package of all the people who have helped and the things you've learned. 

You are helping *you* -- and you are helping others feel good about their love and time spent with you.  I wish they could live far longer.  But you have become a friend ... and that is one of the most precious things ever *hugs*

This forum has been here for me too through the death of April and Bonnie.  I came here when we got April my first pup I had no idea how to raise a little one. *S* you all helped so much.  Then when I lost both of them you were here for me and always here through personal things.  Thanks to all of you.

cakana

Tracy - I remember encouraging you to stay after you lost Tonka and telling you that your experience and compassion would help others. I'm so glad you did choose to stay because you've helped me immensely this week.

I too, went in search of answers and a place where others might be experiencing the same kinds of challenges and issues.  For me, it was dealing with the most difficult puppy I had ever experienced.  What started as a resource, turned into a community of caring, knowledgeable, passionate people, that I call my friends.  Even though I pop in and out, I will always care about all of you...and this is the FIRST place I go when I have issues or just need a sounding board.

miranadobe

If this was Facebook, I'd "Like" it a gazillion times.  Cathy

We all forget -- we DO have a "like" button -- sorta ... look at the top of the thread and there are little stars you can click on to say how much you like the particular thread.  You can only vote once but it is then there for everyone to see!

Cathy I too came here looking for help with Shadows cancer.  He went so fast that most of the advice you all gave me I was not able to implement.  I stayed because Callie shared the Rainbow Bridge with me and when I went there you were all so genuine, caring and helped me get through the loss.  I have learned alot here and made some of the best friends a dog parent could ever want.