Preparing Toddlers for Death of Dog

Rainbow Bridge

The Rainbow Bridge is the theme of a work of poetic prose written some time between 1980 and 1992, whose original creator is unknown. The theme is of an other-worldly place to which a pet goes upon its death, eventually to be reunited with its owner.
    • Gold Top Dog

    Preparing Toddlers for Death of Dog

    My beloved dog of almost 15 years (who was estimated to be 2 1/2 when we got her, is winding downCrying. She is having increasing difficulty controlling her hindquarters, as well as being stiff, etc. The vet has her on painkillers but is estimating weeks, not months,until her quality of life is gone.

    I am struggling to not mourn her passing before she is gone--I got in that mode last summer and she got depressed. Mycurrent worry is howto prepare my toddlers (2 1/2 boy/girl twins) and what to tell them. I had another dog pass away after surgery last spring after an unexpected diagnosis of cancer. We brought Mouse homefrom surgery, they knew she was in pain and to stay away from her area. She developed pneumonia was rehospitalized and then we let her pass the next day after she spent the night on a respirator. The kids were told she got very,very sick and died.I cried a lot so they understood I was sad.

    They accepted Mouse's death surprisingly well.  What I think I worry about is how to help them say a proper goodbye to Gracie if we have to help her across the bridge, and what to tell them if she passes in her sleep? Gracie has not been too close to them--she preferred her quiet life of retirement before the kids. Nonetheless,she is inside much of theday/all night and it is clear to them that she is very loved by me and my hubby. We do have a newer dog (another adult rescue Catherine) who is muchmore interested in kids.

    It hasbeen incredibly hard for me to see her slowly decline. I am sure worrying how my kids will handle is easier than worrying about me, or my husband,who is a nurse and had a very hard time seeing Mouse get her final injection to kill her. Mouse was crematedand sits on a shelf by the door. Gracie too will be cremated.

    Thank you in advance for your advise, and for any prayers that Gracie stay comfortable and know that she is loved until the day (still a ways away?) that she is ready to go.

    Agnes

    • Gold Top Dog

    Lots of prayers and well wishes from my home to yours!!

    This thread here might help with the kids.

    http://forum.dog.com/forums/p/86281/678559.aspx

     

    • Gold Top Dog

    Yes, the previous thread is helpful. When Mouse died and I had told the kids she had been sick and died, my daughter asked "John (my son who has cerebral palsy) sick?". I reassured her John was not sick just different in how he does things and that Mouse had gotten REALLY sick and that sometimes even the doctor cannot help people/dogs get better.

    I also was careful not to say that she was "put to sleep" in case they would be afraid to go to sleep, and careful to not tell them Mouse had gone to a farm, etc. When I was little (I think a toddler) my mom told me my dog ran away because I loved it too much. That created scars thru adulthood for me. My brother told me I had told my mother that I loved the dog more than her. I suspect she dumped Tobi at the pound.

    Thank you again.

    Agnes

    • Gold Top Dog

    Agnes,

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. As you already know, I was facing the same situation like yours. It's torturing to see our beloved pet slowly winding down, and  each day your heart breaks a little more. I totally understand what you're going through now. My prayers are with you and your beloved pet.  As for how to prepare toddlers, I'm sorry I can't offer you any help since I don't have any kids myself. But I'm sure they will be ok, since you've mentioned that they're not too close to Gracie. And they're at a  pretty young age, so I'm guessing they'll adjust to it pretty quickly.

    I hope everything will be ok. God has a plan for us all and He will take care of us.

    • Gold Top Dog

    I have no advice on how to tell your young children, I've never faced that situation.  I just wanted to offer you a cyber hug because I know how you are feeling as far as the dreaded loss of you dear dog.  I'm crying just thinking of what you are going through.  Love her as you always have and you will find the right words for your children when the time comes. Hugs.