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Hurtful Comments....

Last post 06-22-2008 11:48 AM by janetmichel3009. 99 replies.
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  • 06-17-2008 2:15 PM In reply to Chuffy

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

     I can't really say I've gotten hurtful comments per se, but presumptuous ones a few times.  Dog enthusiasts always feel compelled to tell me what other breeds are in Indie due to his size.  I just smile and nod, because really, who knows?  They could be right.  I just tell them both his parents were working BCs but who their parents were or their grandparents?  Huh?  And then they love to attribute certain behavior traits to their chosen guess.  Whatever, my airedale had the same traits, they're dog traits.  LOL!

    The weight thing is one that will sometimes bother me just a bit.  The regulars at the dog park hadn't seen us in a while and they all asked if Woobie was sick, what had happened to him, etc. and the only thing different was that I'd stripped out his winter coat and he'd started running.  He'd actually gained 3 lbs and was really super fit if they'd run their hands over him, he just looks more sleek than he did in the winter.  But when they started telling me what I needed to do, that bothered me a little because they know I'm pretty anal retentive about these dogs and ESPECIALLY what they eat and their weight.  But, I've found it's just easier to smile and nod and ignore them, after all, they're not the boss of me.

    I really sympathize with bully breed owners, people REALLY feel free to say whatever they want to them without even spending 30 seconds asking about the dog or getting to know it as an individual.  My tongue would be bit clean off I think. 


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  • 06-17-2008 2:29 PM In reply to BCMixs

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

     I'm lucky in the fact that I rarely get rude comments about Honor, people usually squeal over my perpetual "husky puppy".  But the comments that irk me to no end are "Are you going to breed her?".  When I respond that she's spayed, they're always like "Why?!?! You could make SO much money off of her pups!!".  It drives me absolutely insane, because these people never even listen to me when I try to explain her contract from her breeder and how I don't want her to have puppies.  They'll just keep questioning me and ridiculing my decision.  I even had one person tell me that I've ruined my dog, because spaying a female dog makes them insane and now she'll attack me, and that's what I get for not letting her have puppies....yeah right. Stick out tongue


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  • 06-17-2008 2:41 PM In reply to Chuffy

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    Chuffy:
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    luvmyswissy:
    I think most people who say anything negative about a dog due to their breed are not dog lovers really.  They like some dogs and their own dogs but they are not dog advocates.
     

     i dont think this is entirely accurate.  i don't like all people i meet and i dont like all dogs i meet.  it doesn't mean im not a dog advocate Smile  granted i usually have more of a problem with owners than dogs, but i have never professed to like all dogs... that would be rather absurd to me Smile

     

    that wasnt the context in which i took it.

    you wouldnt just go up to someone and insult their dog just because of its breed or because you thought it looked ugly, or because you prefer labs to bulldogs or some such.

    i agree, there are some breeds i like less than others, and some breeds i think look boring and drab. but i pretty much keep that to myself unless asked my opinion(like in threads about "whats your fav,/least fav. breed") i am talking about people who will see an ugly tatty eared dog on the side of the road and keep on driving, or they will see a bulldog starving to death on the end of a chain and do nothing in spite of having a dog or two at home.

    There is an authors forum i have been going to lately (thats where i have been disappearing off too lately lol ) its a forum for one specific author but there is a running joke going on in there "How Can Gin Bring Her Bulldogs Into This Subject".. because a lot of times i WILL mention my bullies. So far no one has said "Oh no not again! please SHUT UP about the bulldogs! we dont CARE!" and no one has ever said to me they didnt like them just because of their breed. in fact the only place i have heard anything negative about a bulldog is from this forum from certain members who dont like them.



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  • 06-17-2008 2:59 PM In reply to Infiniti

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    Infiniti:

     But the comments that irk me to no end are "Are you going to breed her?".  When I respond that she's spayed, they're always like "Why?!?! You could make SO much money off of her pups!!". 

    I used to get that all the time when Shari was alive.  I'd respond "she's a mutt and I think there are too many in the shelters already who die waiting for homes."  Usually worked...

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  • 06-17-2008 4:24 PM In reply to sillysally

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    I guess I feel a little bit better seeing how everyone responds to the comments.

    People we know took their dog to a dog psychic (no comment).  The psychic told them that their dog would like to have its meals "hand blended" a little better, among other things. Then told them that their dog was quite smart and that she liked her dog-friend Barney (who was not there), but that Barney was not very intelligent and was, in fact, not really playing with a full deck.  And they thought it was important that they tell us this.  I still hear once in the while that Barney is not really <ahem> intelligent.

    I see no reason to make any defense or explanation of my dog's IQ, seeing that I don't have any requirements anyway.   But I am going to scan the above posts until I find one of your comments that is a fitting response to the comment.  I think Callie had one early on...

    Here he is, dumb but happy.

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  • 06-17-2008 4:40 PM In reply to cat0

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    Not PIRATE!!! I guess I just love ugly dogs... *sigh* I love his punk rock hair do, LOL. 

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  • 06-17-2008 4:58 PM In reply to cat0

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    cat0, he is absolutely gorgeous!!

    I get the fat/skinny comments a lot too! Kaiser is "too skinny" and i should "feed him more". I weighed him today and he is 84 lbs. He is a lanky thing, but you cannot see his hip bones. He looks perfect to me. Oh, and Wyatt is too fat. You can see his ribs! He's thick and muscular. He is 92 lbs. I guess i need a dog somewhere in between them Tongue Tied 



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  • 06-17-2008 5:47 PM In reply to RidgebackGermansShep

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

     I have been trying to think of something that I've heard said about my dogs and I finally came up with a few.

    When we first got Buster, I can remember walking him at the park with my dad and my sister and I overheard quite a few people saying how ugly he was.  I was so hurt.  I was probably 13 maybe 14 at the time so I ignored the comments, but come on, who does that?

    I also used to get a lot of "he's too skinny" comments.  Ummmm, he is most likely part greyhound, he's not too skinny.

    Another time I was walking him alone and some guy going in the opposite direction felt the need to tell me that Buster was too fat!?  I don't know how that could ever be possible.  He's about 45 pounds and at a healthy weight, no extra baggage.

    I tend to just ignore the comments.  They don't know me or my dog, what he needs, does, or his health status, so what do they know? 

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  • 06-17-2008 6:20 PM In reply to RidgebackGermansShep

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    RidgebackGermansShep:
    I get the fat/skinny comments a lot too!

    Kaiser is not skinny, he is "tall".  Wyatt, is "buff".
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  • 06-17-2008 6:32 PM In reply to georgie4682

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    It's incredible how rude people can be!  No one (I hope) would say to a person with a baby: "That's the ugliest baby I've ever seen!" or "Your baby is too heavy," or "Look at the size of his ears!"  I guess it's just an example of how some people think animals are "beneath" humans, they don't have feelings, etc. and therefore manners don't apply.  But, they should still realize the human standing next to the dog is affected by such comments!

    Our dog was a 125+ pounds Bullmastiff, and we heard the usual dopey things like, "Who's walking who?" or "You could put a saddle on him!"  I usually just took those comments as someone's way of addressing us, like "Hello," and I would just laugh as I continued on my walk.  But there were many times when people saw us coming towards them on the sidewalk, and they'd cross the street, grabbing their kids' hands.  That always stung a little, since Tonka loved kids and had many neighborhood playmates.

    The only times I remember giving a knee-jerk reply was when someone said, "He has a face only his mother could love."  I said, "Well his mother thinks he's the most handsome dog in the world!" and kept walking.  Another time my neighbor's father saw us in the backyard (he'd never seen Tonka before), and he said, "Boy is that one ugly dog."  I was like, "Are you KIDDING me?  He's gorgeous!"  I felt like saying, "He's a lot more handsome than you are, Mister" (which he was).  

    People just don't think about how their words affect others sometimes!

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  • 06-17-2008 7:24 PM In reply to tacran

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    tacran:
    It's incredible how rude people can be!  No one (I hope) would say to a person with a baby: "That's the ugliest baby I've ever seen!" or "Your baby is too heavy," or "Look at the size of his ears!"
     

    are you kidding? i had a complex for years because my aunt and her kids would say my ears were big, or had dumbo ears, or had my grandads ears(my dad's dad, whom she hated with all her being)

    and when i was toddler(too young to notice the adults) my mom told me some woman said to her that i was fat. her boyfriend said it was muscle, not fat and he should know since he worked in a gym for a living lol

    so yeah....  people will say stuff about your kids too..... just hope that you're there to stifle them! dogs dont care if you say they're ugly or fat - mine dont lol i call them ugly mugs all the time, but i like ugly mugs... they do too lol- but yeah...... some people will just abuse their rights to freedom of speech.



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  • 06-17-2008 7:38 PM In reply to cat0

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    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    cat0:

    Barney is a handsome boy! He looks pretty smart to me. ;)

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  • 06-17-2008 8:01 PM In reply to Kyda

    Re: Hurtful Comments....

    My boyfriends father says that Lily is dumb because she is a purebred. He's always had mutts (which there is nothing wrong with them!) and they've always listened better than my dog. Well, she is young and curious and dosn't always listen to her mom, but she definatly listens to her daddy!

    Aparantly he's never seen a dog show full of purebreds!

     

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  • 06-17-2008 9:53 PM In reply to sillysally

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    Everyone thinks Maggie is just oh so cute...and really the only rude comments about Teddi were when we were in Petco when he was about 6 months old, and this lady comes up and shoves her boxer in Teddi's face. Of course Teddi growled as in to say back off of me, and then the lady proceded to tell me my dog was mean and I should correct that,  and she guessed I probably wanted a mean dog.  I told her to get out of our face.

    Amazingly, I get alot of compliments about how well behaved both of our dogs are. I don't realize it, until I dogsit for an absolute untrained terror dog, and that's usually when I think oh wow, my dogs are really good!

    Now that pitbull that was running loose my dad found and I took to my house for a night until the owner came to get him,  my mom needs to educate herself and I tried and told her to do some research on the breed. All I heard was, "oh jenn, you better watch, if you touch him wrong he can bite your arm off" yes that big mean pitbull that gave me a ton of kisses and hugs while I had him!!! :)

    ~~ Jenn ~~

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  • 06-18-2008 11:57 AM In reply to jennyx0023

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    Well, owning a breed that an "expert" who wrote a book on intelligence ranked 2cd from the bottom, every once in  while I get someone who asks about that.  I'm happy to let my dogs' stand on thier own merit.  Brindlewonderkid has over 20 titles to his name, and most people (or their dog) can't really compete with that.  I don't think I've every had anyone say anything hurtful about their looks.

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