A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...)

• 06-08-2008 11:06 PM

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  janet_rose Joined on 09-10-2007 DFW area, Texas Posts 3,781 Points 330	Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact A good place to learn more about breastfeeding is the La Leche League - http://www.lllc.ca/  Sorry my links are to the U.S. Amazon, but the ISBN from the U.S. site will help you to search on the Canadian site.
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• 06-08-2008 11:17 PM

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  oranges81 Joined on 10-13-2007 BC Canada Posts 2,245 Points 150

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Thanks again! I'm used to finding my way around american sites. Lol. *sigh* No one ships to Canada anymore but usually I can find the equvilant somewhere else. ~Kitty Rest In Peace Crombie. You will be greatly missed - 07/25/2007 - 05/??/2008 -I may have ears and a tail but I'm still the person you used to know- He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. http://mazerunner.blogspot.com/

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• 06-09-2008 4:56 AM

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  janet_rose Joined on 09-10-2007 DFW area, Texas Posts 3,781 Points 330

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact There are two baby topics that you might be interested in investigating - early potty training and baby sign language. Using strictly positive training techniques, one can start potty training a very young baby (does not require you to forgo diapers) - similar to house training puppies.  Children can communicate with baby sign language long before they can talk.  The parent signs as they talk and the baby learns as naturally as they learn to talk (does not delay speech skills). Potty Training Boucke, Laurie, Infant Potty Training: A Gentle and Primeval Method Adapted to Modern Living, 3rd edition, 2008 http://tinyurl.com/3kgtjd Grossloh, Christine, The Diaper-Free Baby: The Natural Toilet Training Alternative, 2007  http://tinyurl.com/6ruhlv Bauer, Ingrid, Diaper Free: The Gentle Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene, 2006 http://tinyurl.com/3kgtjd Baby Sign Language - these are not "formal" sign language Goodwyn, Susan & Acredolo, Linda, Baby Signs Complete Starter Kit: Everything You Need to Get Started Signing With Your Baby, 2006 http://tinyurl.com/6rt99k "Board Books" associated with the above kit http://tinyurl.com/6gfulc

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• 06-09-2008 5:25 AM

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  corvus Joined on 08-02-2006 Australia (NSW) Posts 2,194 Points 80

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Could I just put in a suggestion to consider the environment when you choose nappies? As I understand it, cloth nappies require a lot of energy and water to clean, but disposable nappies contribute a lot to landfill, and most take an age to break down (like feminine hygeine products). If you choose disposable, look for ones that are biodegradable. If you choose cloth, try to minimse the chemicals you use and consider line-drying (I know, a pain!). My mother never used disposable because she couldn't afford them and all her babies had sensitive skin that didn't much like them anyway. She soaked her cloth nappies in vinegar and washed them with soap flakes or else the babies skin broke out. She said she did it for 4 kids and doesn't regret it. It wasn't that hard and she was only doing a nappy load every 3 days or so and it didn't quite fill the washing machine. Melissa's family: Penny - corgi, Kit - wild hare, Bonnie - rabbit, Kivi Tarro - Finnish Lapphund "She's always talking about her hare."

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• 06-09-2008 1:35 PM

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  fuzzy_dogs_mom Joined on 09-10-2007 Davis, CA Posts 6,977 Points 200

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Disposables were pretty new when my boys were babies and they left a lot to be desired.  We were in an apartment when the first one was born  and didn't have our own washer/dryer, so I had a diaper service.  It was heaven!!  I have no idea what they used to wash them.  I just know I put a pail of dirty diapers out on the front porch once a week and when they were picked up, I was left an equal amount of nice, soft, clean ones. At that time, I don't think a diaper service cost any more than constantly buying disposables. Joyce

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• 06-09-2008 2:21 PM

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  Chuffy Joined on 12-17-2006 UK Posts 5,739 Points 10

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact oranges81: One thing I don't understand (and may seem like a dumb question But I though breastfeeding just came naturally. Is it really that "difficult" to get a baby to breastfeed?   Nah!  Most babies are born knowing what to do!  You could call it a knack.  It helps if you get them latched on as soon after birth as physically possible.  Will fed for 40 minutes when he was born, I was amazed! There are some things that can make it tricky... Say, milk isn't flowing due to a blocked duct or something.  Common and easily solved.  Most common issue is probably baby's position, but if you get lots of help from a midwife or similar you'll manage it just fine.... you know, someone who can SEE what you are doing, what its meant to look like and can give you hands on guidance the first couple of times. "Give a man a fire and he's warm for a day, but set fire to him and he's warm for the rest of his life." (Pratchett, Jingo) "I used to look at [my dog] Smokey and think, 'If you were a little smarter you could tell me what you were thinking,' and he'd look at me like he was saying, 'If you were a little smarter, I wouldn't have to.'" - Fred Jungclaus

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• 06-09-2008 8:48 PM

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  oranges81 Joined on 10-13-2007 BC Canada Posts 2,245 Points 150

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Wow. Lots of stuff to figure out! Good thing it isn't for another 2 years. Thanks again for all the advice and links. You've really helped me out. And I'm going shopping on Amazon.ca next month. Lol! ~Kitty Rest In Peace Crombie. You will be greatly missed - 07/25/2007 - 05/??/2008 -I may have ears and a tail but I'm still the person you used to know- He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. http://mazerunner.blogspot.com/

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• 06-09-2008 9:57 PM

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  UndefinedMelody Joined on 09-27-2006 Mississippi Posts 669 Points 70

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Chuffy: Will fed for 40 minutes when he was born, I was amazed! Nolan too! I hope I didn't mislead you with my comment. Like Janet said the most difficult part of BFing is fitting it into the rest of your life. For example, Nolan still eats every two hours(because breastmilk is designed specifically for your baby, it's very easily digested and doesn't keep a baby full as long as formula does). If I need to run errands I have the option of hiding out in a bathroom stall(which I refuse to do) or run the risk of offending someone by nursing in public. I can't ever hand Nolan over to DBF to eat..so if I'm doing something and Nolan is hungry I have to feed him by myself, lol. You can pump into a bottle but the pump normally doesn't get as much milk out as the baby would and I have to pump milk so I can work so I can't "waste" my pumped milk on Nolan when I'm home. KWIM? Despite it's tiny inconveniences I'm SO glad I decided to BF.

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• 06-10-2008 3:10 PM

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  Chuffy Joined on 12-17-2006 UK Posts 5,739 Points 10

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact oranges81: Wow. Lots of stuff to figure out! Good thing it isn't for another 2 years. Thanks again for all the advice and links. You've really helped me out. And I'm going shopping on Amazon.ca next month. Lol!   Yeah, that's why one of the best things you can do is absorb as much as you can, then set it aside and stop thinking about it!!  It must seem pretty overwhelming from the outside!  About the BFing, I did 2 things - Thing No One, I let go of my hang ups.  I wore convenient clothes whenever possible and I did try to be discreet, but if he needed feeding he needed feeding and if anyone else didn't like that fact, well they could look the other way.  I was TRYING to be discreet and I wasn't forcing the sight on anyone.  Not my problem. Thing No Two, around 3-4 weeks I started Will on a bottle of formula every day.  It varied which feed he had as formula, sometimes it was morning, sometimes afternoon.  If I had to pop out and it wasn't convenient to BF, I used the bottle.  Otherwise, maybe I was leaving him with someone at rather short notice without haveing pumped any and it got used then.  Or we had visitors and I didn't feel comfortable BFing in front of them and didn't want to go and sit on my own.  Or, failing all of that, he'd get it at bedtime and Daddy got some one on one time time with and actually got a turn at feeding... and it meant he could "go" an extra hour asleep as well.  I know that people like LLL reckon breast only until the baby is 6mo but in this day and age, and especially in some areas and cultures that is REALLY hard!  I think if you can make it that little bit easier on yourself and as a result be able to BF much longer (I only stopped this week and Will is almost 14mo) then that is better by far than giving up BFing altogether very early.... /rant off!  "Give a man a fire and he's warm for a day, but set fire to him and he's warm for the rest of his life." (Pratchett, Jingo) "I used to look at [my dog] Smokey and think, 'If you were a little smarter you could tell me what you were thinking,' and he'd look at me like he was saying, 'If you were a little smarter, I wouldn't have to.'" - Fred Jungclaus

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• 06-21-2008 4:55 PM

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  oranges81 Joined on 10-13-2007 BC Canada Posts 2,245 Points 150

  Re: A bit nervous.. (relationship thingy...) Reply Contact Again, thanks for all the advice! I've learned alot all ready.   ~Kitty Rest In Peace Crombie. You will be greatly missed - 07/25/2007 - 05/??/2008 -I may have ears and a tail but I'm still the person you used to know- He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion. http://mazerunner.blogspot.com/

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