This is an example where sometimes even clicker-taught dogs can also be dogs that "do only as told", if they are taught that way. It's also one reason why I try to do shaping and capturing as much as I can, and use little to no luring. Even luring, while a dog-friendly method, is not allowing the dog to be fully interactive in its own learning; rather it is just following along with what the teacher is "asking" of them. You are seeing here first-hand, the very difference between a dog that has 'learned to learn" and a dog that has "learned to take cues". There is a huge difference.
Of course you want your dog to have those calm behaviours, I would expect no less. When I ask Shimmer to stay/wait/easy, I expect that she'll do it calmly as well. I also know, though, that when a new session is started, all bets are off and she's free to try out new behaviours at her whim.
I would pick something very easy to shape, and go with that. Does the pupper know hand targetting? What about targetting a stick (I use a dowel) or a yogurt lid? These things would be pretty easy to shape. Just present the object, and click for any and all interaction with the object. Most dogs, when presented with something novel, would naturally investigate it. So the first time you present it is your best chance at rewarding. After that the dog will likely sit there and stare at you. They are great at staring holes through your head, because they are used to waiting to be told what to do. I would just wait, or perhaps reposition yourself. Maybe pick up the yogurt lid and put it back down, or pull away the target stick and put it out again, but don't force it upon the dog. Let the dog decide to touch it. And I would reward for any and all interaction with it - looking at it, stepping toward it, even leaning towards it. Anything to start the dog on the right path to "thinking".
Freeshaping is one of my favorite things to do with my guys, even when we don't result in any official behaviours. We've played 101 things with a pop can, I've shaped left and right head turns, touching a yellow sticky note on a wall, and more, without any prompts from me at all. There is nothing more satisfying for me to watch a dog learn in that manner.
It is a real learning curve when a dog realizes that THEY determine how a teaching session goes. Once they realize it though, there's no mistaking it.