Lori, I'm just now seeing this heartbreaking thread. I'm always afraid when I've been away from the forum for a while that I'll return to find someone has shared sad news. This is just awful; I can't even begin to imagine how her parents are coping. Like Callie said, the guilt would be crushing, playing the scene over and over. Her poor father, remembering her last words. I don't even know what to say, other than to offer my thoughts and prayers along with the others. Hopefully her youth is in her favor. I seem to remember hearing that young brains can heal or regenerate better, but maybe I'm wrong.
Sending good strong vibes to you, too. It's very difficult to maintain one's own composure when trying to console a distraught friend, not knowing what to say or do, when nothing really seems very helpful. Keep us posted on any news you get.