I too sympathize. I am 17 years older than you, but i have lost both parents, two cousins, my maternal grandparents (the paternal pair passed before I knew them), and 5 uncles. My house has been broken into twice. Two different cars have been broken into. My purse has been stolen twice. My stolen driver's license was used to rent two U-Haul trucks and to get drugs at emergency rooms. Before I got a house, I was once held up at knife point a few feet from my apartment door. My marriage ended after 8 years.
I look at it this way. If there are no downs, you don't fully appreciate the ups. If there is no pain, you don't fully appreciate the joy. If you never lose anything, you don't fully appreciate what you have. The pain from life's experiences fades with time, but the knowledge and strength gained remains.
I now know better how to protect my possessions. I know to always trust the little "feeling" in my gut that tells me to beware (even if I might embarrass myself). I value more highly the time I spend with family.
I have learned not to bottle up my emotions. I can tell my family members that I love them and give them a hug (whether they like it or not 
).
The trials that I have faced in life (both voluntary and involuntary) have helped to shape who I am. They have made me stronger and able to calmly handle more types of situations. They have helped me to learn to read people better and to deal with confrontation better.
The voluntary trials have included pushing myself past my comfort zone. I have traveled alone to Europe and Australia many times. I stopped a possible shooting by playing "mother" and yelling at both the gunman and the other party. I have done unarmed security work in very emotionally charged, volatile situations.
My younger sisters think that I take too many risks and must have an angel on my shoulder. One won't leave her home by herself after dark and the other is so skittish that a small practical joke resulted in a scream that her whole office heard. Thanks, but I prefer my life - even if it turns out to be shorter than theirs.
Except for ignoring my gut a couple of times, not spending more time with family, not establishing a better relationship with my dad, and not doing a better job of controlling my weight, there isn't much I would do differently. Even my marriage with all its pain taught me so much that I do not regret it.
I wish you a period of calm in your life to recharge before you resume facing more of life's trials and learning experiences. I also wish you the strength to handle whatever life hands you.
