Prayers needed for DH and his family....

• 05-13-2008 8:15 PM

  sillysally Joined on 09-10-2007 Indiana Posts 3,442 Points 0

  Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact  On Sunday (Mother's Day of all days) two uniformed officers showed up at my inlaws' home and informed them that they had found DH's brother David, who is in the Navy, dead.  He was only 24 years old. He did not report for duty and so they went to his living quarters and found his body.  The Navy has no idea what happened (or if they do they are not sharing), and said that they have to do an autopsy.  He is stationed in Japan, and it will take 7-10 days to ship David home. The entire family is just in shock.  David didn't have any health issues as far as we know, and they only issues that run in the family are long term diseases, not something that just up and kills you. I'm concerned about my husband.  He doesn't quite know how to deal with this.  He has never even lost a grandparent.  He just says that he wants to keep busy and does not want to think about it. I'm not sure how to help him through this.... His family could use thoughts, prayers, jiggles.....  "Some men aren't looking for anything logical. They can't be bought, bullied, reasoned or negotiated with. Some men just want to watch the world burn."

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• 05-13-2008 8:24 PM

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  glenmar Joined on 09-10-2007 Northwestern Michigan Posts 11,511 Points 405

  Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact I'm so very sorry to hear this, and my prayers go out to all of you. I think that the best way to help him through is to let him do what he feels that he needs to do.  Some of us do need to just keep busy and get through it.  In his own way and own time, he'll be ready to break down and then he'll need your love and support.  Not that he doesn't now, he just doesn't KNOW that he needs it now.  Just be there, and be ready for when he's ready to accept all this. A house without fur is not a home. Glenda

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• 05-13-2008 8:25 PM

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  BTmomma Joined on 12-07-2007 Groves, Texas Posts 826 Points 320	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact i am so sorry! i couldn't imagine... My thoughts and prayers are with you and I thank your brother in law for his service to our country.  Keep us posted.
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• 05-13-2008 8:26 PM

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  marty_ga Joined on 09-10-2007 Georgia Posts 2,099 Points 210	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact  Oh honey, you have my prayers...having just gone through that, just know that I care.  I can understand the "keep busy" part, as that is what I wanted to do also.  Hold him tight and close to you...let him know you are there...bless you and yours...
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• 05-13-2008 8:28 PM

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  pofi_pasquale Joined on 09-10-2007 Minneapolis Posts 3,788 Points 105	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact So sorry to hear the shocking and devastating news DH's family has received - they will be in my thoughts and I wish them peace, healing and strength to get through this. Kitty boy Iggy, forever in our hearts...
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• 05-13-2008 8:45 PM

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  mrstjohnson Joined on 07-13-2006 Sterling Heights, MI Posts 2,642 Points 65	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact I am so sorry.  Our prayers and thoughts are going out to you, your DH and his family. A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than he loves himself. -Josh Billings Lisa - Charlie & Riley's Mommy
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• 05-13-2008 9:01 PM

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  cakana Joined on 09-10-2007 Cathy in Northern CA Posts 6,763 Points 360	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact I'm so very sorry and can't imagine the shock and sadness everyone's feeling. My DH has never had to deal with a loss before and I think he'd react the same way. Just be there for him and he'll let you know what he needs. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. ~ Cathy ~
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• 05-13-2008 9:06 PM

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  gradyupmybutt Joined on 09-10-2007 Pennsylvania Posts 8,479 Points 845	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact Oh wow, I'm so sad for you & your extended family.  You're all in my thoughts & prayers.  In my experience, the only thing you can do for your DH is just be there.  You can't take away his pain.  You can't bring his brother back, but you CAN be there for him & hold him when he needs it & just be patient with him.
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• 05-13-2008 9:39 PM

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  FourIsCompany Joined on 07-30-2007 Posts 4,738 Points 1,135

  Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact OMG, I'm so sorry! My thoughts will be with your DH and his family. Some people don't grieve right away because it's such a shock. It took me 2 weeks after my mother died, after the funeral and everyone went back home and I went back to work before I "broke down" and let myself feel. And we knew she was dying! Just let your husband know that you're there for him and that if and when he wants to talk about it, you'll be there. He'll have to get there in his own time in his own way. He will. When my husband's father died, I was really worried about him, too, so I understand that part, but just be there. So sad...   LSTM (Laughing Silently to Myself) Click Daily to Give Free Food and Care to Animals: http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/clickToGive/home.faces?siteId=3

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• 05-13-2008 9:46 PM

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  jessies_mom Joined on 09-10-2007 Indiana Posts 4,253 Points 40	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact   How terrible; I'm so sorry. Everyone is right; you have to let him deal with it in his own way and be there for him when he needs you. I'll keep him and his family in my prayers; {{{{{hugs}}}}} Life isn't about waiting through the storm; it's about learning to dance in the rain. Janice
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• 05-13-2008 9:58 PM

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  ottoluv Joined on 11-27-2006 So Cal Posts 2,887 Points 520	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact That is heartbreaking, my prayers are with your family. Here I am stuck in the middle with you I practice societal sanctioned assault
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• 05-13-2008 10:12 PM

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  boneyjean Joined on 09-10-2007 FW, TX Posts 2,066 Points 30

  Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact No one can ever be completely prepared to lose a loved one but when it is so sudden and unexpected it can leave you so empty and with so many questions and even regrets.  Just be available to your husband when he needs you and sensitive to his needs.  I think many people go the keep busy route.  I will be praying for you, your hubby and his family during this difficult time. ~Sarah, Harley & Izzy~ boneyjean.blogspot.com

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• 05-13-2008 10:57 PM

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  sl2crmeg Joined on 10-08-2006 New Smyrna Beach, FL Posts 2,519 Points 345	Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact I'm so sorry for his family, that's awful.
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• 05-13-2008 11:17 PM

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  luvmyswissy Joined on 09-10-2007 Posts 1,542 Points 25

  Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact How horrible!  My prayers and condolences to you, your DH and his family.   Dear God,  Experiencing the loss of a loved one is so shattering. It’s so difficult to greet each day when a loss has left them empty and numb. Help them fill that void with the focus of the wonderful memories they shared. Allow them to feel the comfort and gentle encouragement of your angels whispering that their loved one is safe and happy with you. Please nourish the family with your love and give them the strength and will to carry on.  Amen

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• 05-14-2008 12:06 AM

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  Bonita of Bwana Joined on 09-14-2007 Foley , Alabama Posts 1,674 Points 4,655

  Re: Prayers needed for DH and his family.... Reply Contact There has never been, and never will be a time for a service family to get that notice. It matters not weather the cause was a bomb blast or a private indescretion. Being away from home, from everything that grounded you and made the world real life becomes fragile and oh so finite. Please extend our prayers and condolences. It does not matter why to the rest of the world. What should matter is that a brave young man who stepped up and said he believed.... has been lost. With all of the folks who never believed in Anything living on the streets and off the goverment dole someone who was out there trying, someone who felt there was a greater good has been lost and that is a terrific lost to all of us!!  Our hearts to theirs... Bonita of Bwana  a 7 generation military family Bonita of Bwana AKC Rhodesian Ridgebacks Champions, Therapy Dogs and Awesome Companions

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