In my opinion, the best dog to have in an apartment is a QUIET dog. Most complaints arise because the dog is barking all day when the owner is at work, or busy, or the poop doesn't get scooped. For 9-5'ers, a retired racing greyhound is often a good match - they are such couch potatoes LOL. But, for you, adopting a quiet adult dog that is known to be tolerant of very young children, and already house trained, is the way you should go IMO. Puppies, or active young dogs, and toddlers don't always mix, which is why a lot of rescue groups won't adopt a dog to a family with kids under age 10 (statistically, they get bitten a lot, especially if parents leave them alone with the dog, or let the kids be on the floor or dogs be on the couches). Most large SPCA's have a behavior assessment program (ask), and can evaluate a dog's behavior with kids, cats, other dogs (you want the dog that passes all three and has zero food or "special item" aggression). I would start there - you could find the dog of a lifetime and safe a life at the same time:-))
Please do be sure you have landlord permission, and that you are stable in your living situation, so that you will not have to move and leave your dog behind.
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