Sick 2 year old. HELP!

OMG  Jennifer didn't take her to the dr.  She said that Angela woke up this morning and was back to normal.  Eating and drinking and not puking.  Good right?  IMO, she should have taken her to the dr. and at least let them know what has been going on and had her checked out.  What do you say/do about people like this?  Jennifer says that they cannot afford a dr. bill but they still have money to go out to eat regularly and both have brand new cars and the new wee nintendo.  That is just selfishness IMO.  Madison gets what she needs/wants before I get ANYTHING fo myself.  I'll go without just so Maddy can have what she needs.

What do you say/do about people like this?

It's definately a very difficult situation to deal with. The problem is that most of the time, it's just a virus and it will pass. If it is one of the times where it's something worse, waiting can be life threatening. The only way to tell the difference between the two situations is to be evaluated by a medical professional. Unfortunately, she will likely not take her in to be evaluated next time either because "it got better last time right". I have to say it always shocks me how people just do not place value on medical care. They will throw money away on cars, clothes, electronics, but health insurance is "too expensive". It's not too expensive, it's just where their priorities are. It's hilarious here in LA, I have patients come to the medical clinic wearing prada shoes and carrying chanel handbags, but they don't have insurance? I guess my only advice is to just be honest with her. Tell her your concerns. It's so hard not to sound "preachy" I know

Not eating but she drank some milk and held it down.

I still haven't given my daughter milk and she's been holding her food down for about 2 days now.  Per my pediatrician, milk shouldn't be given for about a week after a stomach bug. Just adding this info as an FYI-not to criticize.

When my little one was sick on Friday, I couldn't get to the hospital fast enough.  It scared the crap out of me to see her lying there listless, without a wet diaper all day and refusing even her favorite--ice pops. 

I can sense your frustration with your sister and unfortunately these situations can get pretty sticky when it comes to family, but I admire you and your husband for keeping an eye out for your niece-someone has to.  Hopefully, your sister won't have to learn the hard way what can happen by waiting until the last minute to seek medical attention.... but I'm so glad  to hear that your niece is doing better. 

We have excellent insurance, but the co-pays still can rack up. My two year old had an eye infection a few weeks ago (periorbital cellulitis) which can be serious. She had a mild case, but I still had to take her to the doctor three days in a row for them to monitor it. . .at $15 a pop that adds up. But it is crazy to not go when you are spending the money elsewhere.I am glad to hear your niece is feeling better. If your sister pulls this again though, I wouldn't hesitate to call DSS. Next time she might not be so lucky.

$150.00 copay for our hospital visit............

I saw Angela today and she does actually look a little better but her eyes looked sunk in.  She was acting fine but she has lost a little weight.  I spoke with our mom tonight and she said that Jennifer told her that she and her hubby are ready to file for divorce.  Not surprised.  They both just don't care anymore and the only reason they got married in the first place was b/c Jennifer got pregnant.  Mom also stated that Jennifer said that she thinks that Chris prove her to be un-fit and take custody of Angela.  I feel soo bad for Angela.  She is only an asset to Jennifer and she is the only one that is going to get hurt by the whole deal.  I'm lost here and I don't know what to do.  Honestly, if Chris could get custody, it'd be better for Angela.  Jennifer's past isn't pretty and something is making her present look that way too.  I don't know if she is back on drugs or if there is another man.  Who knows.

What an awful situation....Whatever happens I hope that Angela is raised in the best place for her.  I'm so sorry...

Just wondering where Angela's dad was during all of this and what his opinions were. Worried that she might not be in a great place with either of them if he wasn't worried enough to take her to the doc as well. The sunken eyes sounds like she might have gotten dehydrated.

Ohh how do I describe Chris...  He is the type that doesn't take charge of situations.  The man is 6'5 and 260lbs But he backs down to Jennifer.  I honestly don't know why he didn't have the balls to MAKE Jennifer take Angela to the dr.  He really is a great man but all of his ducks aren't swimming in a row if ya know what I mean.  His priorities aren't ordered right.  I know he loves Angela but IMO, he should have stepped up and done something for her when he knew she was sick

Sounds like a bad situation all around. Poor Angela is right in the middle. I sure hope everything works out for the best for Angela. My prayers are with little Angela and the whole family.

I have tried talking with Jennifer and Chris about maybe getting help with their marriage but every time I mention it, I hit a brick wall.  Neither one of them is happy but neither one of them has the nerve to say "it's over"  My parents divorced when I was 5.  It was hard.  I thought it was all because of me and Jennifer.  At least Angela is at an age where she doesn't really know what's going on.  IMO, the older the children are, the harder they handle the divorce.  Then, they have to deal with each parent saying bad things about the other.  My mom was always down grading my dad.  He had an alcohol problem and he tried to commit suicide once.  He was at an all time low.  Now, if you were to meet him, you'd NEVER believe that he was like that.  He found an Angel.  Sandy was the only person able to pull him from the pit that he was in.  I don't want Angela to go through anything like that.  I know that if Jenn and Chris do split up, they are going to fight over Angela like dogs on a bone.

my parents split when i was two and i remember every bit of it. dont take the young age for granted.

The reason I say that she may not remember is that she is 2 and she can only say a handful of words and she seems to have a problem with her speech.  Maddy was talking in complete sentences when she was that age but Angela, I can't understand half of what she says.  I think she may have a learning disorder or something.  Her parents don't really spend "time" with her.  They play with her and things like that but they don't actually try to "teach" her if that makes any sense.  When I see her, I try to actually help her understand things.  I mean when Angela tries to say "truck" it comes out F***.  I told Jennifer to read to Angela and you can take a guess on whether that happens.

i know two kids that are the same way.... sad to say they are related to me.  they're both boys Ages 4 and 2 1/2. the oldest is a little punk. his parents would rather blame the popular "ADHD, ADD, and OCD" crap than admit the fact they dont spend time with their kids.
i know i'm not perfect and i SHOULD read to my oldest every day, but he is a quick learner with words. for him its all presentation. he will say Duck when he sees the baby ducks, but he gives me a funny look when i show him the rubber ducky bath toy, and he wont say duck. We've been having issues with my mom and her favourite dirty word s**t.... our son has learned to say it. she tries to cover up and say "No he's saying SIT!" ahhh no. he can say SIT and it sounds like Sit. the other word sounds just like the other word too and he only does it when he has been around her all day [>:]

i feel for the kid. it sounds like she is not in a good situation no matter how you look at it. i sure hope you can encourage them to work things out for HER. she should be the most important thing to them. the rest is just details.

It's Really sad.  Poor Angela.  She is a very sweet little girl.  She and Madison are so different.  I cannot get over it!  They have a fit to see each other but as soon as they get together, the world stops moving!  They have a lot of the same toys yet they fight over one little stupid toy!  I like for them to play together though.  Maddy is home with me all day and Angela is with mawmaw.  No other kid around for them to play with.