Happy Father's Day chat

Karen, sorry Bugsy decided to express his opinion indoors but at least it was only on the plant and only a little.  Twister did that one time in a similar situation and I was beyond shocked and embarrassed too. 

Cathy, I'd be ready to do absolutely nothing today in your shoes.  I hope the BBQ is fun and you can enjoy yourself.  BTW, when I said the temperature was 79 yesterday I meant it was that at 6:00 AM.  It got up to middle or upper 90's by the afternoon.  Just unreal humidity makes it feels like Florida or Houston. 

No real plans around here either.  Grocery shopping, mulch spreading and house cleaning.  Exciting stuff. :) 

Jewlieee

B that is too funny! Sorry Karen hehe

Well it was kind of funny, their dog was being really nasty and B doesn't do anything to retaliate he just wiggles and whines and tries to convince the snarky dog to play (he has other girlfriends that do this, sigh) This dog, however, had me concerned - she has attacked other dogs when the mood strikes. We were all watching and feeling a bit bad for him because he sounds like such a baby, then with seemingly no other options he lifted his leg and marked. NOW the really interesting thing is she stopped her snarkiness and went off to her favorite spot to lie down and from then on he was allowed to play with toys and she never snarked again. Dogs, shrugs.

Julie that is not a good day ahead, sorry. Wedding dress shopping alone would be awful to me, with all the other stuff added,  So sad. Good luck and do your best.

kpwlee

Once again DH's son has not sent even a card - makes me 

I slept really great last night and feel much better today. I've got a cake baking and orzo cooking for the pasta salad. I asked DH to stop and pick up some potato salad on his way home from the gym. I forgot it yesterday and there's no way I was going to make it from scratch. I'm finding this living out of 2 homes thing is tricky. I'd moved my mixer, so mixed the cake batter by hand. Not a big deal but I also moved all my colanders, so draining the orzo might be challenging. It's all good though and won't be for too much longer.

I miss my dad all the time but I especially miss him today and wish I could chat with him just one more time.

cakana

I miss my dad all the time but I especially miss him today and wish I could chat with him just one more time.

Same here.  I do talk to him quite often in my head.  He still gives the best advice. :) 

Ugh, Julie.  I would have probably done the same thing and agreed and then canceled.  Family stuff can be so frickin' frustrating and guilt inducing.  I should call my brother and wish him a happy father's day but can't bring myself to do it for so many reasons I don't want to go into publicly.  I love him but...

I ruined three pairs of DH's work pants by accidentally adding bleach to the load. He is unfazed but I feel so stupid and mad at myself.  We're off to Kohls in a little while.  I needed to go for myself but since I hate shopping I've been putting it off for a long time.  He loves to shop so we'll be there too long for my taste and I'll get all snarky at him even though I'm the one who caused the shopping expedition in the first place.  Maybe if I drink first it would help. lol

Forgot to say Happy Father's Day to all the Dads and to all the Mom's who are both Mom and Dad to their kids. 

I still need to get my dad a card, because I am the best kid ever. I'm going to take him put sometime during the week, because we are not fans of crowds. I didn't get him anything, because he buys whatever he wants himself. I don't see a need to buy someone junk they don't want.

I got some housework done & a bunch of yard work too. I need to go shopping, but it will wait for another day. Home for a nap and to watch golf.

My dad has been dead for over 28 yrs. Sadly he's a distant memory. I do have two friends who have lost their dad in the last month and my heart aches for them.

On a positive note Bugsy has actually been more comfortable with cuddling & touch the last few days. Truly a treasure for me because he always has shunned physical love

We gave Shane a much needed bath and then I brushed him outside while he dried and now he's curled up next to my looking like a sleeping angel. I should try to keep him awake so he's good and tired for the bbq.

I still talk to my dad a lot too and even when I'm not talking to him, most of my choices or decisions are made with a nudge towards what he would think. Nothing has ever meant as much to me as hearing him saying he was proud of me :)

With 2 sets of houseguests coming and going this past week, I completely forgot about Father's Day -- I didn't get a card for DH from Ruby (yeah, we're stupid and do that kind of thing).  Ooops.

My MIL wanted us to come over for Father's Day dinner, but thankfully DH said no.  The meals at her retirement home are 3-hour ordeals, and no surprise the food is really blah.  And they always have "entertainment" for these kinds of special day meals, and today would be some guy singing WAY too loudly to a karaoke machine, and all the songs would be "father" themed.  We've been through it before . . . and I'm glad we're not going today. 

The last of the family guests left about 4:30pm yesterday.  They were barely out of the driveway and DH said, "I've seen enough of my family for a year!"  That's how I feel, but I'm glad he was the one to say it! 

Last night we resumed our quiet routine of DH watching some movie he's seen 100 times and me watching one of my favorite shows on the DVR in the den.  At one point, he came into the room and said, "I think we should turn off the TVs and chat."  It took me a second to realize he was kidding -- we're both relishing the lack of endless talking we'd been doing for days! 

Julie, try not to feel guilty about not shopping with your sister.  It was unreasonable for her to expect you to do that drive for a short appointment, especially if she didn't give you the heads up about the distance in the first place. 

I'm sorry about your DH's kids being insenstive, Karen & Cathy.  Ugh -- family stuff can be so aggravating!  I always think of that Al Franken sketch on SNL where his character "Stuart Smalley" said he fantasized that he saw Norman Rockwell at a 12-step meeting, and he said, "Hello, my name is Norman, and I paint lies."  

I forgot to say that the story of Bugsy trying to mark the plant cracked me up -- but I'm sorry for your mortification, Karen!  Interesting how his girlfriend reacted after that.

Also, I should say that it wasn't just houseguests who caused me to forget Father's Day.  It's not been on my radar much since my parents divorced when I was very young and I rarely saw my father.  Also, both grandfathers passed before I was 3, so I don't remember them.  I know it's bittersweet for those of you missing your Dads who have passed, but I'm sure you know how lucky you were to have built all those good memories in the first place.  They're still with you -- it's just a non-physical presence. 

Yesterday we went to the Guild Theater in Sacramento to see a documentary. The son of a good friend is a film maker and he and some friends filmed a hike along the John Muir Trail.  It took them 25 days (14 of those days slogging through snow) to do the 200 miles and not only did they have to lug backpacks with personal items and food, they had to bring audio/video equipment.  I'm in awe of people who can do things like that.  For me a "nature hike" is walking through the atrium in the lobby of the Hilton. The film is called the "Muir Project" and if you get a chance to see it, on line or somewhere else, it's truly amazing.

On a lighter note, DGS gave DS #1 a Father's Day card with a $5 bill in it, but he super glued the bill  to the inside of the card.  I don't know what the hell-o he was thinking.  Lord, the kid's almost 20. I told DS to maybe try soaking the whole thing in hot water and see what happens.

Joyce

Julie, by the sounds of the list of productive things you got done today, I wouldn't classify it as "relaxing!"  You were a busy bee!

Joyce, that documentary sounds grueling to film.  I'd much rather WATCH it than MAKE it, but thankfully there are people willing to do it for folks like me who want to consume the media instead of create it.  You and I must be cut from the same cloth.  I love your definition of a "nature hike."  That's what it says in my dictionary, too! 

I may have posted this before here (my apologies if I'm repeating myself), but I gave my friend a birthday card this year that shows a woman all dressed up, holding a martini glass, with a fluffy little dog at her feet.  It says, "My idea of outdoorsy is having cocktails on the terrace."  On the inside it says, "Do I get a badge for that?" 

Joyce, your grandson must've been intentionally joking, right?  But if he was, that's a waste of a perfectly good $5 bill!  Just think of the things $5 buys today!