spiritdogs
Posted : 12/1/2009 9:58:18 PM
I don't think you are being cruel to your dog, but I also don't think you are well educated about the consequences of electronic collars, and I don't like to see dogs subjected to their use, especially by someone who is not very well versed on the concepts of operant conditioning and how their use can affect a dog in ways you might not expect.
As to your husband's conduct, we can only guess how he treats your other dog and you, but you came here telling us that you thought he would put this dog to sleep for poop eating - we are a community of dog lovers here, and, as Glenda pointed out, are generally horrified when we hear something like this. If you are in counseling, apparently you have come to understand that there are some issues that need to be worked out, and I commend you for trying to do that in a sensible way. Often, the way someone treats an animal is a very good indicator of how well he or she respects a partner. So, you can imagine that we had some concern for you as well as for your dog. I wish you only the best luck and hope your dog ends up with a forever home where she is loved and cared for, whether it's with you or another family.