Anxiety - First time ever (Harry)

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    Anxiety - First time ever (Harry)

    This is probably going to get a bit long, sorry about that.  I just want to give enough info... 

    I'll start by saying that Harry has never, ever showed any kind of severe anxiety.  Sure, he's had stressful moments, but this is the first time I've ever seen him act this way.  I'll relay the story and you guys let me know if I handled this right, and any other advice is very much appreciated.

    This is what happened this morning.  Like most of us, we have our normal morning routine.  The dogs wake me up at around 5:30am, I let them out to pee, feed them breakfast, and we go back to sleep until 7am.  Then I get up, shower, get ready for work, go downstairs and let them out to potty.  Then we play for a bit before I leave for work.  Sometimes BF is already gone to work, sometimes not.  This morning it's lousy weather, so he slept in a little.

    When I got out of the shower, I could hear one of the dogs whining on the other side of the bathroom door (turns out it was Harry).  Both dogs were in the bedroom, BF was still in bed asleep, so it's not even like they were completely separated from their people.  When I opened the bathroom door, Harry came bursting into the bathroom and was completely velcroed to me.  Usually he lazes in bed while I get ready in the mornings, so this was not normal.

    I finished getting ready, he was right on me the whole time.  This is when I heard a noise.  Apparently while I was showering, one of our smoke alarms downstairs started beeping to indicate a low battery (once every couple minutes, just one beep).  You could hear it in our bedroom.

    Harry, Sammy, and I went downstairs, and I let them outside to potty (this is when they usually go #2).  Harry wouldn't go outside unless I came with him (not normal for him).  Then he still wouldn't leave the deck, even though I kept asking him to go potty.  So we came back inside.  Harry was shaking, his tail clamped tight, panting.

    The whole while I'm trying to listen hard to figure out which smoke alarm it was that was beeping.  I finally found it...in the downstairs hallway.  I grabbed a chair so I could reach it.  I took it down, replaced the battery, put it back up.  Problem solved, no more beeping.

    This is pretty much how I handled the situation.  When I found which one was making the noise, I pointed it out to Harry and said, "This is where the noise is coming from.  It's not a bad thing, Harry.  But it's bothering you, so we'll fix it, okay?"  Then I talked to him through the entire process letting him know what I was doing.  When I took the smoke alarm down, I let him sniff it (he wanted to, I wouldn't have forced it on him), he wasn't afraid of it, but it was quiet at that point.  When I replaced the battery, I told him, "Ok, it's quiet now.  Everything's back to normal."

    I did all this very calmly, tried to have a reassuring tone to my voice, at the same time acting as if this was no big deal.  I didn't coddle him at all, but I talk to him a lot, and stroked him massagingly.  Then I went about my normal "fix my coffee, etc."  Then instead of playing, we all three sat in the living room for about 10 minutes, so he could really hear that all was quiet and the scary noise was gone.  He layed on the couch next to me, right up against my side, with Sammy on the other side of him.  He stopped shaking while we did this, and was panting less.

    By the time I was needing to really leave for work (I was already going to be late, but big whoop, my pup needed me), I took both dogs upstairs to the bedroom so they could be in there with BF.  I told BF about it, and he was so sweet...he said, "C'mere, Harry, come lay with me."  Harry jumped up on the bed and curled up with BF.  He seemed okay with me leaving at that point.

    When BF got into work an hour and a half later, he said Harry was perfectly normal when he left.  He did go to sleep with BF for a little while after I left, and when BF got up, Harry was his normal tail-wagging, happy self.  He finally went potty, and he even asked for some treats from BF.  So it seems he's fine now, thank goodness.

    So, guys, do you think I handled this right?  Any advice if he ever gets like this again?  Thanks!!

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    I always base how well the human handled it based upon how the dog's behaviour changes. Based upon your description, it sounds like you handled it just fine! And it's actually sounds like something I would do myself. 

    Smoke detectors in general - the alarm and the beep, can be quite startling to some dogs. I find there is a frequency that smoke detectors run at that seems to bother the hearing of dogs, plus it's a strange, rare sound that comes from up above - it can be rather disconcerting!!

     

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    Heather, it sounds like you handled it well, based on Harry's reaction and recovery.  I'm glad he was able to get over it with your help and also glad you were home when it happened.  That would have been a very stressful day for Harry if he had to endure that all day.  Check the batteries in the other smoke detectors.

     

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    How old was he when you got him?

    I would have handled it differently.  I would have said "THANK YOU - You told me this was beeping and that's important!! We FIXED it!"

    Any time a dog alerts me to something that is an "alarm" -- something I, as a human, OUGHT to be paying attention to, I think it's important to reward that behavior.  The dog isn't to know that some of those sounds can be ignored (or were just a p.i.t.a. in this case).  But humans can, and do, sleep thru smoke alarms or similar things.  And for a dog to tell you IN SPADES that something is wrong, and he's worried ... MY way would be to treat that dog more as a hero.  I wouldn't have put it off -- I would have gone to "find" the noise right off and I would have said that was good.  Not to reward the fear but to have rewarded the effort the dog took to find me and alert me to a problem. 

    The more you ignored the beeping, THAT made the fear, I think.  I would have treated it AS THOUGH the dog warned me -- even if it was a scaredy type of "alarm" I would have said thanks for telling me. 

    They get frustrated when they can't get our attention.  And having a dog that will come and FIND you when something is wrong?  I think that's meritorious.

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    I'm not sure even then that I said that all right -- I would have turned it from reinforcing "fear" to You came and GOT me -- GOOD DOG!"  I would have acknowledged that the sound was something *I* needed to know.  It's a fine line but I DO think you can reinforce the effort to GET you, and validate the fact that it was a sound that needed to be heeded.

    I don't think THEY need to differentiate - I think WE do.  But I think sometimes WE need to remember they can't discern the pain in the butt stuff from the critical stuff -- so coming to get you and letting you know something was awry is a big deal.

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    JackieG
    That would have been a very stressful day for Harry if he had to endure that all day. 

    OMG, I can't even imagine what that would have been like for both of them!

    Callie, I didn't ignore the beeping.  But I felt I should put clothes on before going in search of the noise. Wink  I was in the shower when the beeping started, apparently, because I didn't hear anything beforehand, but Harry was agitated when I got out of the shower, so it had to have started then.

    I let the dogs out first for two reasons...1-Sammy had to goooooooo, lol.  2-I had no clue which detector was beeping.  Since the "low battery" beep is only one beep every 2-3 minutes, I had to try and listen for it to see where it was coming from.  Once I located the source, I immediately took care of it.  But it did take several minutes and a few more beeps for me to find the right one.

    Thanks for the advice, though.  I didn't even think about thanking him for letting me know there was "trouble afoot," lol.  I'll do that next time for sure.

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    I will often say "WHERE is it???"  or "Help me *find* it!" ... and in cases of modesty, etc. *grin* I will say "Ok WAIT a minit .... I'm coming!"  But in other words try to convey to him yep, you think it's important too ... and help find it!

    I talk about this occasionally but it touches so many things .. I do "talk" to mine CONSTANTLY ... and I try hard to listen to them tell *me* things like when something is "wrong" with another dog or in the house or outside the house. 

    I spotted a UTI on Kee the other day because Luna and Tink both *told* me Kee smelled weird ~there~.  And because I'll say "what-chu sniffin?" and then *I* look it reinforces them that I LISTEN to them a whole lot. 

    You don't build that instantly ... but truly they will 'tell" you a lot of things if you listen to dog-speak.

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    I know, I do that all the time.  Talk to them, ask them where things are, etc.  I'll ask Harry where his toy is (whichever one he was just playing with), and he'll go get it.

    Now that I think about everything I said to him this morning, I did ask him "Where's the noise, Harry?" and he went downstairs, so I knew it was one of the detectors down there.

    Just yesterday I was doing "poo patrol" in the backyard, asking the dogs to help me find the piles, lol.  Sure 'nuff they were very helpful!